- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Okay here is my vent:
I am not a bridezilla; I’m particular about how I want everything to go, but not a bridezilla! For example, I have done EVERYTHING myself. Not one person, even in my bridal party has helped in any booking, ideas, or diy. I’m perfectly fine with that, people have busy lives and I’m the one choosing these things so I’ll carry them out.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my FI’s sister. Her only job was to do my bachelorette party. I’m not getting married until Jan but she wanted to have it early to avoid bad weather and such. She decided we should have in Aug. She started telling me it would be an Aug date in June so that’s what I was planning on. By the end of July I still had no date. I kept asking and she kept telling me after a few details she’d be able to give me a date. Well I work in a hospital, so I need to have dates set a good time in advance, especially since most of my friends work in the hospital along with another Bridesmaid or Best Man. I tried to explain this her but I guess she didn’t get it. After all of the fuss she decided it would be best if we pushed it back. Again, I kept asking her for a date. I told her it would best to first set the date so we could all make sure to get the night off work. After another two weeks of asking for a date she told me to pick, which is perfectly fine. I picked OCT 5th, this friday.
So now that everyone has made arrangments to have the night off the party guests were asking me details of the party. Where they need to be and what time and the costs of the night. So I asked. She didn’t have it all worked out yet. One week before. Still no details. The location of the party is a two hour drive so it’s not like it’s down the street, guests wanted to know. She said she had some stuff but it wasn’t set out yet so she’d let me know so that I could pass it on. So about 5 days before people were going to know details. I couldn’t believe it. It was supposed to have been done in Aug. So to me, everything that was planned for that night would just be pushed back two months. But nothing was ever planned. I gave her ideas, things that I thought would be fun that were not costly. She told me that my Fiance offered to give her money and he never did. That made me upset bc it isn’t his fault that she didn’t plan anythign.
So I told her not to worry about it. I told her we could cancel the whole night and it wouldn’t be a big deal. I said it wasn’t like there was money paid on anything (deposits) and no one had the night planned so it wasn’t a loss. This made her mad. She told me that she would no longer be in my wedding and that someone with more time and money for my wedding should be doing this job. WOW!
I have kept my Bridesmaid or Best Man expenses pretty minor bc I know some of my girl’s financial situations aren’t the best. They have a total of $75 to pay to be apart of my big day. So I don’t understand why she said someone with more money…. Also, someone with more time? What time has she put into it? It takes a half hour to plan. I actually did plan it. I sent her a timeline text as an idea. I said: “Hey! what if we did comedy show at 8? A late dinner, then drag show at midnight?” but it’s all still an issue. My party was the only time she was giving up. And the big thing… She volunteered to throw it!!!!!!!!!