Member- ashnic87
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
(This may get a bit long)
I get married in 16 days – woo && thank goodness! As much as I’ve enjoyed planning and being excited, this wedding has come with a lot of drama. We got engaged back in July. Well I had two best friends – one that I was roommates with back in college and the other that I’ve known since high school. We decided to make the one from college my Matron (seeming she is married) and the other my Maid. From the minute I made (I’ll call her M) my maid of honor – she was all about being the one next to me and sitting next to me, like it was a competition.
Well both of my maid and matron living in Illinois, about 4 hours away from me. My matron was pregnant at the time, so we had decided that my maid, matron and stepmom (who also lives near them) would all plan my Illinois shower. From the get go, that started a bunch of drama. M kept saying that my matron was causing drama and what not. I brushed it off. However this ended up causing a lot of controversie between me and my parents. At one point in time, my dad told me he wasn’t coming to the wedding. (We’ve since then worked things out)
M hasn’t been very communicative with the other bridesmaids as well throughout the whole thing. With trying to plan my bachelorette party, she never talked with them or gave them her input.
After the whole shower ordeal in Illinois, M and my step-mom ended up being the only ones to plan. the matron decided to just help plan the other one in Ohio. Well M didn’t even help my step-mom with the shower. Just complained the entire time.
My parents bought me my statement necklace for the big day. It had to be custom maid so M said she would bring it with her when she came in town for my bachelorette and bridal shower (the one in Ohio). THe week of, M told me that parents could no longer afford to pay for the necklace and paid the rest of it off. Come to find out my parents never said that – they told her that M would have the necklace by the time she left to come to Ohio. So she took that away from them.
The whole week leading up to her coming she talked about her coming, even the day before. Friday I get an email at 4 am saying she isn’t coming, just that she is emotionally exhausted. I’m sorry but that’s not a good excuse. She said she would mail my necklace. Luckily my matron lives near by and picked up the necklace.
Well on Saturday, as we’re heading to my bachelorette party, M texts me and says she is no longer coming to the wedding. When I asked her why – she said that something happened last week but nothing to worry about. Are you kidding me? Three weeks before my wedding, and the person as I chose as my maid of honor drops out of my wedding. And with what I consider as no good reason. She immediately blocked me on facebook and instagram.
The sad part is I am not upset. I feel like I finally got rid of this burden that was causing so much stress and grief. So we whited her name out on the programs. My step-mom wanted me to just tell everyone that she was sick but I was not about to give her that satisifcation, seeming the wedding day is about me and not explaining to others where she is. Just ended up being a huge inconvience that added a ton of more stuff to my to-do list because I had to call a ton of people!
I’m not going to lie – I’m excited for my wedding but very ready for it to be over!
