Post # 1
I’m a bride but also the Maid/Matron of Honor for one Miss PenguinPumpkin. She’s awesome and is no way at fault for these crazy BMs of hers – two of them are also BMs for me (yes, they probably hate us, but whatevs).
So, I’m organinzing the shower and bachelorette along with the Matron of Honor. She and I decided on the basics and then sent out a list of ways the BMs could contribute if they wanted – some were crafty, some were just purchasing things, some were easy, others more complex. No pressure was put on them to spend a lot of money or time, just to choose a task they might enjoy, if they wanted.
But then, I get inundated with requests. One Bridesmaid or Best Man has asked at least three times to bring something penis related. The first time I said “haha, that’s funny, but Miss PenguinPumpkin is really not into that.” The second time I said it slightly more firmly, then this last time I said “Sorry, she really really REALLY does NOT want that at the shower or bachelorette.” Then I was told by said Bridesmaid or Best Man that I “shot down all her ideas” and I should just “tell her what to do if I want her to do something.” I already DID – see the freaking list!
I’ve also been told “I’m not into email, can we meet to discuss this in person?” and “I think Miss PenguinPumpkin herself would be the best at that task.” Yes, perhaps, but it’s her freaking shower so chill out and put in some effort. And why do I have to meet with you bc you are too LAZY to read your emails?
I swear, wrangling these bridesmaids is like herding cats!
Post # 3
No, herding cats is easier. These BMs just don’t get it!
Post # 4
All she could think to contribute to the bridal shower was to bring penis related stuff? LOL
Maybe it’ll really would just be easier for you to tell them to do specific tasks. Some people have a hard time doing thing w/o a lot of direction.
Post # 5
Wow…how frustrating. I guess you will just have to delegate certain tasks to the others or take them on yourself. Unfortunately, the old saying rings true “if you want something done right you have to do it yourself”. Hopefully, the other BMs are helpful and cooperative.
Post # 6
Girl I feel your pain. I would just do the stuff yourself and be done with it. If they ask how they can help then tell them, bring a bottle of wine or whatever. I went through this same crap last year and I wanted to pull my hair out. Bad part was even if they said they’d do something they didn’t. So I ended-up having to do it myself anyways.
Post # 7
Sigh…. Some just don’t understand the concept of it’s not about them, but for the BRIDE!
Post # 8
Ugh, I’m sorry they’re being so difficult! I don’t know why some girls don’t get the “no penis” stuff. My bridesmaids had to tell my Maid/Matron of Honor several times that I would not appreciate a penis pinata.
Post # 9
I am so sorry! ugg BMs they just wanna show up and look pretty! lol jk jk
You are being such a great Maid/Matron of Honor and getting everything together. Kudos to you!