- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I have two fabulous younger sisters who are my best friends – I’m so blessed to have them in my life and I love them both to pieces! When we were kids, we made a pact that we would take turns being each other’s MOH’s when we got married. It turned out that I was my middle sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor, middle sister was youngest sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor, and my youngest sis is mine. (Yes, I know, I’m the oldest and getting married last, but the wait has totally been worth it! Plus I’m only 27!) My middle sis did a lot of DIY projects (invitations, STD’s, decorations, dresses, you name it!) so I was super hands on involved in helping her pull it off, not to mention planning showers, a bachelorette party, etc. and I loved every minute of it! She was also super helpful as the Maid/Matron of Honor to our youngest sis who got married this past summer at the beach. I was gone on a 5 month mission trip during the majority of the planning, so I didn’t get to be as involved as I would’ve liked, but still helped in any way that I could, especially once I got home.
So now, it’s baby sister’s turn to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and she is totally flaking out! Several weeks ago, I went dress shopping and invited both of my sisters, who of course are both in the wedding, and my BFF who is the 3rd bridesmaid and my mom, to go with me. It was like pulling teeth to get her to go! At first she said she could go but she wanted to double check with her husband, then she said she agreed to work for a coworker and couldn’t go..let’s just say it was a fiasco. She did end up going – after I guilt tripped her pretty bad – and everything ended up going great that day, but the stress that I felt leading up to it was unnecessary, in my opinion. I’m doing my own invitations and much of the decorations and she has yet to offer to help me with them. Thank God in heaven for my mother! She has been SO much help – I jokingly told her I was going to promote her from MOB to Maid/Matron of Honor haha! And my other sister wants to help in any way that she can, but she lives 2 1/2 hours away so it’s hard for her to get involved. And my BFF travels a ton for her job so she’s rarely around to help, which is totally fine. My baby sis does have a tendency to be a bit self involved which I knew going into this whole thing, and in her defense, she has a 7 year old daughter, works a lot, and has been going through some pretty intense personal stuff, so I’m trying to take it easy on her and not turn into a bratty bride, but I just want her to WANT to help me…and right now it seems like she couldn’t care less. So far, the only thing she has really done is send me some bridesmaid dress ideas.
I guess I just feel like I’m being robbed a little from the whole bride and Maid/Matron of Honor experience that I’ve gotten when I’ve been Maid/Matron of Honor to other girls, especially my sister. I’m getting to a point where I’m about to take a stand and tell her that if the few small things that I’ve asked her to help with is just too much for her right now that she can be relieved of the pressure if she wants. Is/Has anyone else experienced anything like this? It honestly makes me very sad because, even when we were kids and I drew her name to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, I was so excited to have her take on that role. Part of me wonders if she’s holding a grudge over me not being here to help with her wedding as much as I did my other sis. I don’t know…my mind has just gone to so many different places that maybe my imagination is running away with me…I just don’t know what to do 🙁