(Closed) MOH forced me to choose btwn family members! (sorta long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think you made the right choice.  She should not have pressured you to chose between family members.  She’s obviously had issues with coming all along.

Post # 4
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7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You did the right thing. Giving in to her irrational demands is only enabling her.

I’m so sorry she won’t be there to support you though!!!

One clarification, why not all 5 (MOH K, Maid/Matron of Honor G, Mentor + 2 kids) just fly together? Why does Maid/Matron of Honor coming have to equal Mentor + 2 kids staying home? Was Mentor going to look after the baby? Or Maid/Matron of Honor watch their kids?

Post # 5
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1205 posts
Bumble bee

@Snowflake, I could not have said it better.

Post # 6
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think you did fine.  Your sister should not have even asked that.  Is there no one else that can fly with her?  Does she not have even a friend or something she could bring along for support and just be one extra person at the wedding, if she is that afraid of flying a lone?  Or could another family member fly out and fly with her?  I know that is a lot of work and money and probably totally impossible, but never know.  But what you did was the right thing.  So sorry it is all so stressfull.  I am just sooo excited for your day:)  Don’t let these things get you down, I know that is easier said than done believe me, but you and your fiance will have a great day and be commiting yourselves together:)  YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 8
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

has she always been this irrational about things?

Post # 10
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

well then maybe it is a blessing in disguise.  Maybe it will keep a lot of unneccesary drama out of your wedding day:)  Sometimes we can’t see the blessings that come out of bad situations:)  I know you will beautifull and your day will go awesome:)

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

well then maybe it is a blessing in discuise(spelling bad):)  Maybe it will save a lot of unnecessary drama on your wedding day:  Sometimes we are unable to see the blessings in bad situations:)  You will look beautifull and your day will go awesome.  Can’t wait to see pics:)

I posted but it just disapears.  My computer is old so if this shows up twice sorry!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Ummm, are there some underlying issues here.  I hate to comment like this, but the situation sounds nuts.  How old is this woman?

Post # 13
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You made the right decision.  It sounds like she really needs to get her sh*t together and that she is making everything more difficult for herself and everyone else. 

My Aunt HATES to fly and is terrified of it.  She just took two flights by herself (she has never flown alone before) to come and see my Mom for her birthday.  If it means that much to your sister to be there for your wedding she would make it happen.  I’m so sorry she is making you feel like it was your decision, it clearly wasn’t.

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