- 4 years ago
Let me start with LOW BUDGET WEDDING, I have done everything in my willpower to keep my wedding simple and affordable for everyone involved. This applies even more so to my bridesmaids and Maid of Honor. I have made a vow that none of the girls will put more than a certain amount into my wedding since their income as well as mine should not be focused on just one day.
With this said I gave my BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor their pick of dresses (length material & style) the catch was they had to come to an agreement on one similar dress and had to be the wedding color. The girls came to conclusion and chose a fun summery dress that they all agreed can be used more than once (and is affordable for everyone). “It is quite a lovely dress and cute! Casual formal so good for many occasions!” When they showed me the dress I loved it and said absolutely. I asked all of my girls if any of them needed help purchasing the dress since my budget had just enough wiggle to help them all out(asked all them in private). All of them declined.
Fast forward 6 months all of my bridesmaids have purchased their dresses! 🙂 which is wonderful!! HOWEVER, this morning (21 days from my wedding) My mother called and told me that my Maid/Matron of Honor asked if MY MOM would purchase her dress. Turns out for the last 4 months she has been lying about having purchased her dress. Now it is too late for her to get the dress that we have originally agreed upon since they had to be ordered with at least 8 weeks advance since it is a popular summer dress and color.
I asked her what had happened and she acted extremely offended… She responded with financial difficulties and not having the time to go to the store and place the order, blah, blah,.. I had offered several months back to help purchase the dress ($115 Final cost) but now I had last minute expenses and can no longer offer the help the dress could also have been ordered online and placed on Layaway.
My Maid/Matron of Honor has had no other obligations to nor requests to meet. No showers, parties, stripers 😉 To which has honestly saved my fiance and I alot of stress hassle and $$$ but this one task to which she agreed upon has somehow become a terrible burden for her. I have watched her over the last several months walk in and out on jobs (so upon her request I got her a full-time job at my workplace), blow tons of money on ridiculous items (party bus for the hell of it $500 for one night I was not invited, very expensive dinners every weekend for her and her boyfriend, she had spent almost $200 last week for her hair to be dyed firetruck red!) I had encouraged her to be her self and go and do these things not know she hadn’t purchased her dress!!
I really don’t want to drop her from the party but now she is pretty much saying she doesn’t want to come anyways. Which hurts ALOT! Alot more than the dress situation which I had already came up with a solution to which she seems very unhappy with. At the beginning when I had asked her to be my maid of honor she was super excited and bragging about how she is going to be the best maid of honor but since then she has been absent and discouraging. I would understand if I had done something to upset her but I am always there for her when she needs me no complaints! I even shoveled over money for her birthday bash which she canceled last second because she was too tired. (out $150 for the deposit)….. WHAT I DO!!?!?!?!