(Closed) MOH getting married

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@NVACat:  Most important tip I would think is to not go shopping “together” for wedding things – What I mean is, if she says she wants to go look at dresses or for tablecloths, make it her day and then arrange a seperate day for you, be there for her on her days with her wedding in mind, and vice versa for your days.  Same with Bachelorettes and Showers – don’t have joint events. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with Cariad:  – just don’t do joint events.  They always sound good at first, but then someone ends up with hurt feelings.  Make sure you commit fully to being able to go to her bachelorette party, shower, etc, and that you don’t turn the focus of these events on you!  Deflect if someone mentions your wedding, and say, “maybe we could grab coffee to discuss my wedding, friend, but today is all about MOH!”

So sweet of you to be concerned by this!  I’m sure she’ll be touched that this is such a consideration for you.

Post # 6
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

One of my BMs was married 4 months before me.  Given the huge gap, we didn’t have any problems keeping our events separate, especially because we had very different guest lists.  When I attended her wedding events, a few people asked about my wedding but I tried to keep the focus on my friend.  She’s the one we were there to celebrate.  We both got “our time” and it was wonderful to share everything with her.  I think you’re lucky!!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yes its hard. I was engaged V-Day and my BFF (not my Maid/Matron of Honor cause my cousin and sister are) got engaged 9-28 and her wedding is 5-18-13… Just 6 weeks after mine! I am her Maid/Matron of Honor. Luckily, I was a planner and already have everything pretty much figured out and done for mine. Tomorrow we get to dress shop for hers. Also 2 of the girls are in both mine and hers. We are a close group of friends though and I could not be happier for her:)

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You get one day…sorry. Sounds like you are both just at a time when marriage makes sense. You both have very different relationships to celebrate. No one will confuse your wedding with hers and you can just think of it as a year filled with lots of love and celebrating. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m in a similar situation. Got engaged in September, wedding in July. Maid/Matron of Honor just got engaged in November, planning a December wedding. They’ll be totally different and both fun. It’ll be exciting to plan together (if only we weren’t separated by several states!)

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