(Closed) MOH giving me a hard time about dresses

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am not very confrontational either, but I would politely say “It’s my wedding, I’m only asking this one thing please”

Post # 5
7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

If you really don’t like her choices, go shopping with her and buy her the dress you want her to wear. In the UK then the couple pay for anything they specifically want people in the bridal party to wear… ie if you want them in a “black, knee length dress” then you will have zero input into what they wear, other than that it is black and knee length. However, if you want them in “this specific dress” then you pay for it and they have far less input into what you dress them in. Same for the shoes etc.

I know that is not tradition in the US, but for this girl then it would solve the problem.

Post # 7
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@cherryblossomlove:  its your day!!!! remember that and its an HONOR for her to be chosen as your maid of honor she should where what ever you pick for her to wear the end!

why do bridesmaid/maid of honors think they have a say? its our vision of how we want them to look. they are part of our decor too just like we are as brides were the main decor ;o).

they wear what the bride choses and thats it. ive been a bridesmain in plenty of weddings in my time.

they picked the dress and i paid and wore what the BRIDE picked the end.

and i hope im not being a brizilla for that.

good luck and stand your ground! its your vision shes messing with.

Post # 9
8883 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m sorry but the dress she has is just ugly.  The ones you like are gorgeous and elegant, she can wear it again. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, you are being flexible enough. It’s your day and you have a right to ask her to keep looking. I’m sure she won’t mind!

Post # 12
8883 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@cherryblossomlove:  Exactly, I completely agree with you. I’m glad you’ll stand your ground 🙂

Post # 14
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@cherryblossomlove:  Don’t get into a debate about it. Just send her a text..  “Hi BM! I see that this dress hunt is causing you stress so I’ll save you the trouble of looking any further. Here are a list of dresses that fit the bill (insert info on dresses). With this many to choose from I’m sure you’ll manage to find one you like! Looking forward to hearing which one you’ve chosen. Love sooner365”.

People can be such pains in the arses :/

Post # 16
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m going shopping with my sister this weekend – I envision some resistance…

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