(Closed) MOH got wedding FEVER bought a gown–Not engaged or even close! Thoughts

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: My MOH bought a gown. What should I do?
    Try to be supportive : (13 votes)
    12 %
    Talk to her about waiting a little while. : (93 votes)
    88 %
  • Post # 3
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    hhhahaah because your post reminded me of a conversation with a temp i had a year or so ago

    her: i bought my wedding dress on the weekend
    me: oh, are you engaged – i didnt know that!
    her: no, i dont even have a boyfriend but i loved the dress so much i bought it
    me: [silence while thinking nothing screams run away as much as a first date when you tell him you have already picked out your wedding dress]


    Post # 4
    1331 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Wait, is this the same bee who’s thinking of buying her own engagement ring without even being engaged yet?  LOL, this seems a bit crazy to me, and I’ll bet you anything that when your Maid/Matron of Honor finally does get married, her tastes in dresses will have changed drastically.  *shaking my head* 

    Post # 5
    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    My best friends ex husbands best friends wife (phew..can you follow that? LOL) bought a wedding dress 6 years before she met her husband.  And it was pink. Bright. Neon. Pink! and from the 80’s (she got married in the early 90’s). 


    Post # 6
    15 posts
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Maybe she has decided to pracitce the secret at a very visual rate.  If you can see it you can believe it. J/K  Just be supportive.  She probably has a shopping hangover. 

    Post # 7
    48 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011


    I had a friend that did something similar.  She actually bought her dress before she met her husband.  At first I thought she was crazy, but she ended up wearing it at her wedding and planning the entire wedding around it. 

    But none of our friends were getting married at the time, so she wasn’t wishing to get married as much as your friend might be… she just found a good dress (at a great price).

    That said, I would talk to my friend and mention things like wedding trends changing, and other dress related reasons to put off buying it.  I don’t know if i’d be able to bring up anything about the boyfriend because girls can get so defensive, I wouldn’t want her to get upset with me and then go buy the dress anyway…

    Post # 9
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    My thinking would be it’s her money and she can spend it on whatever she wants.

    Maybe she bought it (or wants to buy it–didn’t you say she didn’t put down the deposit?) because, for her, this is THE dress and she’s afraid that when she does get married, it will be discontinued. Maybe it has nothing to do with this particular boyfriend, but just with the dress.

    Seems this is her decision, her money, her dress. If it were my friend, I would just stay out of it.


    Post # 10
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Your title says that your Maid/Matron of Honor bought a gown.  In your post, you say that she didn’t put a deposit on it.  So … did she buy it or didn’t she?

    I’m kind of confused why anyone would encourage someone coming off of a divorce to try on wedding gowns in the first place. 

    Post # 11
    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think you should talk to her. She’s a month off a divorce, already dating, not well off financially and buying thousand dollar wedding gowns. Someone needs to talk to her and tell her she’s being crazy, and if she’s your best friend, it might as well be you.

    Post # 12
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i have to agree with lacrosse…you shouldn’t have encouraged her to try on the dress. she’s newly divorced and one of her best friends is getting married…it’s got to be a rough time for her.

    ultimately, it’s her money. i would try to talk her out of it by reminding her how much styles and circumstances change.

    Post # 13
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    One of my friends bought her wedding dress already (4 years ago).

    While dating her previous boyfriend. She got a really great deal and loved the dress (the style is very classic). She is now planning on marrying the current guy she’s with and she will wear the dress.

    I would never do it but I guess if she is level headed about it it could work.

    Post # 14
    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Honestly, only someone I love and cherished as a friend would be my Maid/Matron of Honor therefore a friend I would be totally honest with. I would talk to her about why she is really buying it and if it is a wise choice. Yes someone said its her money, but this is someone that is suppose to be close to you that is coming off a divorce a month ago and is in a new relationship and not financially stable. Really? Is this a wise choice? Sometimes, people going through all that are in a clouded state and need to be pulled back to reality.

    Post # 15
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’m confused.  Did she buy it yet, or not?

    Post # 16
    2742 posts
    Sugar bee

    @sailor: From the post, I think she put it on hold? Anyhow, if it was my Maid/Matron of Honor, I would tell her that she should chill on the dress buying. In a nice way of course.

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