- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I chose my best friend from college to be my maid of honor. The other day, I was texting her and she mentioned that since her and my fiance, Sam, will never get along, she won’t be able to be my best friend once we’re married.
This was a complete shock to me! My fiance has done everything he could to reach out to my best friend our entire relationship. He has been nothing but nice and friendly, and will text her often and really try to build a relationship. My Maid/Matron of Honor, however, is constantly sarcastic and rude to him. I always thought she was trying to be funny, and it just was coming off the wrong way. I didn’t realize she actually didn’t like him!
I said to her, “What? I thought you liked Sam.”
She said, “Why would you think I like someone that I don’t even know?”
I replied, “Because he’s funny, smart, really nice, he has a lot of things in common with you, and he’s important to me.”
She said, “None of those are good reasons to be friends with someone.”
I asked her what could possibly be a better reason to like someone. She said, “Getting along. You can’t force friendship.”
My fiance has been trying to “get along” with my best friend for our entire relationship, and she’s never even tried! And now she’s saying that she won’t be my best friend after the wedding?!
After this conversation, she hasn’t answered my texts, she refuses to try on the bridesmaid dress that we already paid for (we just need to order the right size), and she has said nothing to me about the bachelorette party or bridal gown shopping (even though she would talk non-stop about them right before this conversation).
I don’t know what to do! I want her to be my maid of honor, but I don’t want her being sour and rude the day of my wedding! Any advice??