(Closed) MOH -Hella ZILLA

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Aw, give her the boot! She doesn’t need to be doing this to you. Tell her she’s welcome to wear the pink dress… AS A GUEST.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This sounds almost exactly like my situation a month ago.  Except for my Maid/Matron of Honor can spell “do” (sorry, English major here).   Anyways, she’s is being so incredibly unreasonable.  I too wish that I had just picked out a dress and made everyone wear it. 

In regards to the dress that she picked out in spite of you…you should ask her to return it and proceed to tell her that you’re questioning her participation in the wedding if she’s going to behave like that. 

How many bridesmaids do you have?  At one point of the dress hell I seriously considered scrapping a wedding party all together to lose a lot of the stress. Something to consider!

Post # 6
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283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh. How pathetic that a grown (and married) woman has the audacity to act this way. The whole convo was a pity party for a drama queen. Seriously. I wanted to jab myself in the eye just reading her responses, I have no idea how you didn’t fly off the handle. Honestly, her comments were ones I would’ve made when I was 9 years old and jealous of my younger sister’s birthday party.

I don’t really have any advice because my only thought is “get rid of her”, but she is your friend so you have to decide how much that friendship is worth. She is showing herself to be unbelievably immature, manipulative, and selfish. I personally do not want any of those qualities in my friends, but that’s a decision for you to make.

And please, stop playing her game.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Tell her that you don’t like the dress she bought and then go buy her a dress for your wedding and tell her that she can wear that or nothing at all. Stand up to this princess it is your day! You can do it!!!!!!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I honestly think you should have dropped it when she said whatever, pick something- I’ll wear whatever. You should have said Okay, yellow target dress it is… Yes, she’s being a little idiot, but you pushed the subject when you could have dropped it.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Niki_24:

It did seem you were giving into her demands even when you told her it was YOUR day and I’m sure you were there for her on her wedding day and not as mean/rude as she is being. It’s hard to have a family member step down and from how you portray her she will probably hold onto it for a long time, and I’m sure you will be racking with guilt if you tell her to step down or be out of the wedding party all together so if it were me (cause I would feel just as bad) I would just pick the dress for her and that’s the end of that. It can be her decesion to leave. Sorry this is happening, can never please everybody i guess : (

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with vmec.

She already said she would wear whatever.. if she doesn’t feel comfortable wearing the yellow dress though then I wouldn’t push it. Just help her find another dress you like. I don’t think she was being rude I think she just didnt want to talk about it anymore.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

While I think that she’s acting like a brat and being really passive aggressive towards you, I sort of see her side. You asked the girls to pick a bright dress. She has one…you then told her you don’t like that one. If you’re leaving it up to them, it’s hard to put stipulations on it afterwards. Just pick a dress and stick with it. Stop playing into her pity party of one!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Time to walk back with your tail between your legs. Tell her you’re sorry it came to this. Tell her you pick the yellow dress and hope you can be done with this and drop the dress topic and move on.

After you say sorry and try to mean it. And then drop it and never ever bring up dresses again. Then change the topic to something lighter.

Oh and DO NOT TEXT THIS. Speak at least  over the phone if not in person.

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