(Closed) MOH help…really really really need advice!!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

I feel like it’s too late to do that. All the work has already been done by your friend without the “honor” of the title. I would just be sure to REALLY thank my friend, maybe even get her an extra gift. But if you take the title away from your sister (who you are stuck with for life) that is just going to cause MAJOR drama.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

The colours are not a big deal..

Your sister could just be really confused and unaware of what you are expecting her to do. It’s ok to have a Maid/Matron of Honor, but a bridesmaid (your best friend) who does most of the work. At this point, she may be really hurt that you choose someone else as an Maid/Matron of Honor. 

But if she’s going to be annoying about the whole process, it’s better to choose your best friend. It really depends on your expectations. I personnally don’t think it’s a big deal who you designate as your Maid/Matron of Honor. So just let it be.

Post # 5
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1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MexiPino:  +1

The wedding is very close. Don’t stir up the hornet’s nest now. Just make sure your friend knows that you appreciate everything she’s doing for you. Appreciation counts more than a title.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@angiemk47:  Why not just list them both as bridesmaid? Is there some way, other than signing the license and the order they walk in that’s going to show which is MOH?

Post # 8
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1359 posts
Bumble bee

@angiemk47:  No. If you really only have two girls, it wouldn’t be, IMO. And that would definitely make things simpler!

 

Good luck 🙂

Post # 9
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55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@angiemk47:  Make them both Maid/Matron of Honor. I wouldn’t demote your sister, even if she didn’t do much, it would just be unecessary drama.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

WOW.  I am in the exact situation.  I agree with the previous posters, make your Boyfriend or Best Friend a Maid/Matron of Honor as well.  It’s perfectly fine to have 2.  I decided to make my Boyfriend or Best Friend my 2nd Maid/Matron of Honor after realizing how much she has been overcompensating for my sisters shortfalls as a Maid/Matron of Honor.  

Goodluck 🙂

Post # 12
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859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@angiemk47:

I think you should make your best friend your maid of honor.  I would kick your sister out of the bridal party.  Honestly what would upset me the most is if she didn’t wear the jewelry like you told her to.  I’m not a everyone has to look the same bride but if I was a bridesmaid or even just passing out programs I would wear what the bride wants me to no questions asked.

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