(Closed) MOH hosted shower without the MOH?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for my friend and was unable to come to her shower, so while her grandmother "hosted it" at her house I did everything else from 1000 miles away in Seattle.  


I don’t see the big deal.  She’s done all the work and she can’t not do something for her job.  I never heard that inlaws being snarky about me.  They all were appreciative at my behind the scenes work with inviations, contacting and food.   

Post # 4
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Yikes it sounds totally understandable that your mom would step up here.  Do you think your Future In-Laws would really be snarky about it?  I think honesty would do the trick with them.  If they still have a problem, I think they’ll just need to deal.

But also, I don’t think it’s terrible to try to place some responsibility on the shoulders of the BMs.  I know you said they don’t seem to be terribly interested, but they’re your BMs.  They should be able to lift a finger.  I’m guessing your Maid/Matron of Honor has done most of the work already.  What’s left to do?  My preference would be to have the BMs help out as much as possible, not because of avoiding a situtation with the in-laws, but because your mom will have her hands full already since it is at her home.

But you shouldn’t have to deal with this yourself.  I would suggest your Maid/Matron of Honor ask the girls to help, if possible.  Sorry she can’t be there. 🙁

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