Post # 1
I just recieved word that my Maid/Matron of Honor has been called unexpectly out of town for work the weekend of my shower, which is this weekend.
I live in KY, but my Maid/Matron of Honor and both of our families live in VA so we were making the trek back to VA during Easter and it was decided that this would be a good opporunity to do bridesmaid dress shopping and then my family shower as well.
My Maid/Matron of Honor planned the entire event to be held my parents home this coming Saturday afternoon. She works with global non-profits and a meeting with a large donor from India who is flying into Vegas is occuring Friday night at 8:30pm. She will not have time to meet the donor and catch the red eye back to the east coast for the shower.
I understand her job and am totally not upset with her, but I’m bummed she won’t be there and upset by the situation.
So now the question is should we punt the shower to the other bridesmaids (all FI’s siblings) who haven’t expressed any interest in it yet, or give it to my mom to host? Will it look bad that my mom is hosting my shower all of a sudden to the future inlaws? And any polite responses would be appreciated on how to handle future inlaws potentially snarky comments about my Maid/Matron of Honor bailing on me…
Help appreciated hive!
Post # 3
I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for my friend and was unable to come to her shower, so while her grandmother "hosted it" at her house I did everything else from 1000 miles away in Seattle.
I don’t see the big deal. She’s done all the work and she can’t not do something for her job. I never heard that inlaws being snarky about me. They all were appreciative at my behind the scenes work with inviations, contacting and food.
Post # 4
Yikes it sounds totally understandable that your mom would step up here. Do you think your Future In-Laws would really be snarky about it? I think honesty would do the trick with them. If they still have a problem, I think they’ll just need to deal.
But also, I don’t think it’s terrible to try to place some responsibility on the shoulders of the BMs. I know you said they don’t seem to be terribly interested, but they’re your BMs. They should be able to lift a finger. I’m guessing your Maid/Matron of Honor has done most of the work already. What’s left to do? My preference would be to have the BMs help out as much as possible, not because of avoiding a situtation with the in-laws, but because your mom will have her hands full already since it is at her home.
But you shouldn’t have to deal with this yourself. I would suggest your Maid/Matron of Honor ask the girls to help, if possible. Sorry she can’t be there. 🙁
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! I just needed some advice from someone outside the situation!
Miss Sapphire, I appreciate everything she’s done and being in the fundraising world I understand she can’t not go meet a donor flying across the world 🙂 I’m excited for her, but still bummed my Maid/Matron of Honor won’t be at my shower, but certainly do not hold it against her at all! I’m so excited for everything she has planned thus far!
Tanya, I do think the Future In-Laws may be snarky – they haven’t been my biggest fan well, ever. Their baby boy decided to move from VA to KY with me 3 years ago and they didn’t approve then and sometimes still dont. They’ve been slightly rude on other occassions such as dress shopping, so I’m at a point where I don’t put anything past them.
I think I’m going to ask Maid/Matron of Honor to explain the situation and enlist the help of the other BMs to all host the shower together so it doesnt all fall on my mom Saturday.
Thank you again ladies 🙂