Post # 1
My sister’s wedding is in early May, 2011. Hubs and I decided to “see what happened” for about 6 weeks after our wedding, but then decided to put off TTC for a while since I knew I’d be the Maid/Matron of Honor in my sister’s wedding, we are buying a house, and overall there is a lot going on. But… we managed to get pregnant! Right now it looks as though we’ll be due in the end of March. I’m in NY and my sister’s wedding is in FL. We’re planning on flying. I love my sister and want to be there for her. My parents, other family, and husband will be there as well, so I won’t be alone with baby or anything. I get the feeling that my sister doesn’t think I’ll be able to do much at that point after giving birth.
How were you feeling 6 weeks post baby? Do you think you would have felt okay to be a MOH? Where were you weightloss wise at that point? Should I be planning for a maternity dress or just a larger size regular dress? On the day of, my husband will be on baby duty.
Am I being terribly naive to think that I’ll be feeling okay and will be able to do what I need to as Maid/Matron of Honor that day? Basically help her get ready, take photos, and walk down the aisle. I know things can go wrong. We’re still very early in our pregnancy (5 weeks) and while I’m planning for a natural childbirth, that might not happen.
I appreciate the advice. I want to be there for my sister, but I don’t want to be naive and end up letting her down.
Post # 3
I’m currently 6 weeks postpartum, and I certainly feel a lot better than how I did a few weeks ago. I definitely could perform duties as a Maid/Matron of Honor at this point. However, that also depends on how the delivery goes. I was induced and gave birth naturally, so my recovery is obviously different from others. The first two weeks were the most difficult, but I started feeling better after that.
About the weight, that’s a wait and see situation. I’ve already lost all the baby weight, but I just naturally didn’t gain a lot of weight. I was back in my regular jeans about a week postpartum. Obviously, it’s different for everyone.
With a dress, I would probably go for a maternity dress, or buy a regular dress with an empire waist. That way, you don’t have to worry about the weight loss.
Post # 4
It depends on how understanding and flexible your sister is. If the most important thing is that you are standing up there with her, then do it! But only if she can have little to no expectations of you performing other “duties” and she understands that pregnanacy and child birth are unpredictable – you could have the baby late or early, a c section, who knows? Try and get something empire waisted to give yourself some flex on losing baby weight – it is so different for everyone! Also remember your boobs might be really big if you are Boyfriend or Best Friend so account for that too (I have gone from a 34B to a 36D in third trimester and I know I could get bigger after the baby is born)
If she is demanding or unflexible, maybe you could be a bridesmaid instead of MOH?
Post # 5
I would just ask your sister. I mean, you could be early or late, but it seems early to decide. I would worry about flying w/a baby who hadn’t been immunized yet, and working out the Boyfriend or Best Friend schedule, but ultimately you have to decide how you feel about that. Also, each woman is very different in how long/how much they bleed after birth, so I’d be prepared to deal w/ that inconvenience…but probably not much worse than if you just had your period that day (except no tampons, right?).
If you were my sister, I would still want you to be Maid/Matron of Honor but not want to stress you out!
Post # 6
I can’t speak to how I felt since I haven’t been in your situation. However, one of my bridesmaids was 7 weeks postpartum at my wedding and she felt great. She and her husband flew with the baby and her mother joined her to watch him during the wedding & rehersal dinner at their hotel. She wore a dress that was 1 or 2 sizes larger than her normal pre-pregnancy size and looked great. All three of my bridesmaids who were pregnant when we bought dresses just bought larger sizes and had then altered a couple of weeks before the wedding. Good luck to you!
Post # 7
Are you planning on breast feeding bc you burn over 1000 calories a day brestfeeding/ It really depends on your activity level and body type before pregnancy but I think you will be ok. Also there are not that many Bridesmaid or Best Man dress styles that are super tight or form fitting so I think you will be fine no matter what!
Post # 8
My sister is awesome! I think she’ll be as accomodating as possible. She’s excited for us too! I am planning to breastfeed, although we’ll probably be doing a mix of breastfeeding and pumping to a bottle, since I’ll have to go back to work around 10 weeks.
I know things don’t always go according to plan, especially childbirth, but it’s nice to know that if I don’t have any complications, it’s very likely I will be feeling okay and can fulfill Maid/Matron of Honor duties without letting my sister down.
Post # 9
At 6 weeks I was tired (from waking up to feed/change the baby) but I would have been able to be a Maid/Matron of Honor. I wasn’t too tired. But you’ll need your DH’s help with the baby, they require a lot of time when they’re that young. If you’re BFing, you’ll need a good pump to pump every 3-4 hours (that way you can give the milk to your Darling Husband to bottle feed the baby so you can focus on the wedding). I gained a lot of weight when I was pregnant, so I was still really big. (AM still really big!) You’ll lose 20lbs within a week after you have the baby, but the rest is all on you. So if you don’t gain a lot, you’ll be back to your normal size sooner than if you gain a lot.
Post # 10
My Maid/Matron of Honor is going to be four weeks post-baby (fingers crossed all goes well). All I expect is her to stand up with me. I’m being flexible about dresses – just told the girls to get something blue. If your sister is this flexible there are lots of pretty nursing dress options out there now. Otherwise I imagine practically having to take your bridesmaid dress off to pump or nurse every few hours would be inconvenient. I’d be okay with pulling my shirt up in public to feed, but not unzipping the back of a dress and taking down the top – just personal preference. Also get something stretchy as you will change sizes as you add and subtract milk. If you want my list of dresses send me a message and I’ll find it.