(Closed) MOH Insists I Invite the Man that Molested Me

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is my (ex) MOH completely out of line?
    Yes, she's completely self-centered for asking that of you. : (359 votes)
    99 %
    She's just jealous because the spotlight isn't on her. : (2 votes)
    1 %
    You're being an insensitive b*tch for not forgiving him, : (0 votes)
  • Post # 107
    Member
    1078 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @bridetobethree:  God she is horrible, 1st of all I am so so sorry that happened to you … even more sorry that she implyed your lieing on of the biggest fears after that happens to a person is ppl not beleiving you she sounds terrible 

     

    I think 1st of all, she has no ground to be upset with you even have infact forgiven him (clearly on some level you have b.c. you go to family events and don’t make a big deal about him being there you understand he can’t wrap his head around what he did … just the same you should NOT HAVE HIM AT YOUR WEDDING  you don’t need such painful memorys there) you are not being a bridizall or a bitch you have proven over and over you understand what he did and why b.c. you spend time in a room with him … if you didn’t you couldn’t stomch him at all … Good on you for being the bigger person I know i would have battled to go to a family event at all 

     

    Your wedding is sposta be happy, you should not have to have someone who hurt you so profoundly be there weather he ment to or not ontop of that alot fo the time people have someone watch family memebers for such events i sure other ppl in the familyhave been married with out him being there 

     

    She was pure nastyness …. I believe she is very self centered also i think she was trying to ruin your day on some level she likely is jealous … and rude to be like that to you 

    Post # 108
    Member
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @ju5tdance:  

    @FirstComesLoveNZ:  

    @Kissed_by_lightning:  

    Ladies, this thread is 3 years old. The OP got married in 2011. I’m sure she’s over this crazy Maid/Matron of Honor and on to bigger and better things in her new life. 🙂 Be sure to check how old a thread is (at the top, under the title)!

    Post # 109
    Member
    683 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I went through a very similar situation, almost identical actually. Thankfully once I told my husband about it he backed me up. My families guilt was still so much I almost caved until my husband said “if he’s there I won’t be”. He was saying that to help motivate me and it worked like a charm.

    this guy does NOT need to be at your wedding, this girl sdoesnt not need to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. She sounds like a complete bi*ch and I’d just tell her to stay home and watch her brother. There his no excuse for what he did to you and no excuse for how she’s treating you

    Post # 110
    Member
    1406 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Tell her it is not working out with her as your Maid/Matron of Honor and you will be finding someone else. This is your day. You don’t need to explain to her who you will invite.

    Do not invite him. That will ruin the day for you. If their parents do not come, so what?

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