(Closed) MoH insulted my wedding, friends, and my MOTHER behind my back… Help!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

[content moderated for name-calling] that woman would have no part in my wedding after a situation like this.  Nobody  messes with my mama!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds as though she doesn’t value your friendship nearly as much as you do. I can’t believe she would publicly badmouth you, your friends, and your mother. I think you’re being very generous in giving her a month to contact you before dumping her, because I probably would have done it straight away!

If she had an issue with how that weekend was panning out, she should have approached you, rather than posting it all over the internet.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If any one of my friends treated me or my mother like that I would contact her immediately and tell her to forget coming to the wedding at all.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m not sure I could get over this if I were you.  It sounds like she generally looks down on your friends and mother.  I also fail to see how making fun of you all weekend on twitter is going to help her from a social media perspective either. 

 

I would maybe give her one more chance to apologize/explain herself, and if she doesn’t I would ask her to step down.  I might try harder to repair things or figure out what is going on if she were a friend that you regularly spent time with, but it sounds like it might be time for you to part ways (and perhaps the twitter thing is her nasty way of trying to end your friendship).

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@seabunny:  +1

Insulting your mom is an unforgiveable sin, IMO! 

Post # 9
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1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

She does not deserve to be in your wedding. It honestly sounds like she is jealous. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

She sounds jealous. 

Publicly bashing your mom online? Not cool and then she wouldn’t even apologize? If this is how she acts during a girls weekend, how will she act at the wedding?

I do have to say, no one will care about your vendors or wedding details as much as you. Maybe a full weekend of it was too much for her?

i would give her time to chill out and then have a heart to heart

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Dump her from the bridal party. Not bridesmaid, nothing. With an attitude like that, you don’t want her in the wedding party at all. For someone who works in social media, she’s pretty extremely stupid to post that, because she must have known you’d see it.

I’d still in invite her to the wedding. But as a guest only. I’m not sure how the friendship will go, but she has brought in on herself

p.s. If it was me, I’d take screen captures (i.e. press the “print screen” button then go into MS Paint and press “Paste” and “Save”) of her Twitter posts so she can’t deny it in future. If you can’t see her twitter, try logging out. If you still can’t, create a 2nd twitter account, follow her, then take screen captures.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

See ya later “friend”

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@redness82:  +1 this is a NO-BRAINER. She would no longer even be my friend less yet invited to the wedding to be a MOh Or Bridesmaid or Best Man or anything. I have to wonder with some people and their idea of a “friend.”

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This post actually made me angry. I could NEVER imagine someone posting such awful, hurtful things on the internet ESPECIALLY after the people she is bashing paid for her entire weekend and, from the sounds of it, did maid service for her. How totally rude!

If this post was just about the fact that she acted like a bitter, surely killjoy the whole time, then I would consider trying to talk it out and give her a SECOND chance to apologize. But no. She insulted your (it sounds like very sweet) mother, your taste in dresses, and she didn’t even feel bad about it when you confronted her!

I wouldn’t even give her the courtesy of informing her she is out of the wedding. I’d consider her blocking me to be her resignation.

Wow, I need to take a deep breath after that one, haha. Sorry, I get really riled up when people post hateful things about family members.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@volesnug: I’m ususally anti-kicking out bridesmaids, but she’d be out with me.  Period.  End of story.  It’s one thing to not care about your wedding, it’s another to be insulting and to completely disregard, and in fact, go out of her way to hurt your feelings.  

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