(Closed) MoH insulted my wedding, friends, and my MOTHER behind my back… Help!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 47
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@volesnug:  I am so sorry that your “best friend” has treated you this way.

Not only do I not think that she should be your Maid of honor but I don’t even think that you can consider her a friend.   Especially after she was so rude to you over the weekend.  And after your mom has done so much for her and she didn’t even have the courtasy to say a simple thank you.  You have been out of college for many years now and it seems that she has a lot of growing up to do.

I understand that you are not worried about how your wedding will turn out but I do think that you should be concerned about how she treats you.  I mean just out of all the rude thinks she has done to you and how she has mistreated your mother, do you really want those qualities in a friend?  I sure know I don’t.

Post # 48
23 posts

I would email her uninviting her totally. Do you want your entire wedding mocked online? Seems that this would be a real possibility, given what she’s already done. She’s obviously ‘too cool for the room.’ That seems to be much more important to her than your feelings. 

Post # 49
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@volesnug:  That is unacceptable and unforgivable. I would NEVER forgive a friend for doing that. I would tell her that because of how hurtful she’s been, you’d rather not have her be a part of your wedding day. Wow. I’m sorry, I feel so bad for you.

Post # 50
8879 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I agree with the PPs. This girl needs to have her butt kicked to the curb.

Insulting your friends is bad enough, but your mother? And then defending her own behavious. UGH. I would have bitch slapped her.

The good news is that it sounds like the other Bridesmaids are great friends. You are lucky to have some great girls there to support you. Ditch the bitch and enjoy your true friends!

Post # 51
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would inform her she isn’t in my wedding party anymore…by tweet. That’s just rude.

Post # 52
3695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sounds like your mom is awesome, and your “friend” is not your friend.  Insulting my family is one thing that my friendships do not survive. 

Post # 53
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

There are very few cases I see where a Bridesmaid or Best Man needs to be kicked out, but…yeah, this one has got to go. From the wedding and from your life.

Post # 54
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Block her from your wedding. What an arsehole.

Post # 55
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@volesnug:  Based on your response to @MR_rosworms: it sounds like she’s kind of a miserable person. From your description, she reminds me of Lena Dunham’s character Hannah on Girls. I would ditch her and move on.

Post # 56
2436 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@volesnug:  KICK THE BITCH OUT! What a nasty nasty person! I’m sorry her change of face surprised and hurt you, but moving forward I would cut her out of my life. She’s so nasty and malicious, it’s unbelievable! And passive aggressive to boot!

Post # 57
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

There would be no talking it out! Let her know now that she isn’t welcome at your wedding because you only want people there who love and support you.

Post # 58
3764 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Ugh, this makes me wonder if I’d be in your place if I hadn’t kicked an old HS friend to the curb 2 years ago. I, too, had ignored and made excuses for her crappy behavior until it finally hit the fan. I allowed the friendship to slowly fade away, and now she’s not even invited to the wedding. I can’t imagine if I had kept her around and made her a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

+ 1 million to everyone saying kick her butt to the curb.

Post # 59
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

That is flat out disgusting. She is a disgrace and being a Maid/Matron of Honor is an actual HONOR, one she does NOT deserve. Don’t let her in the wedding, she already told you how she feels about the other girls imagine what being at the wedding would be like and the photos. She will look diconnected and probably be on her cell phone playing games and talking more shit during the reception.

Post # 60
259 posts
Helper bee

I think you handled this very calmly, but personally, if someone insulted me, my mother, and my friends that way, i would have kicked her A double S out of the wedding! I wouldn’t even invite her!

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