(Closed) MoH insulted my wedding, friends, and my MOTHER behind my back… Help!

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 62
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@volesnug:  I’d tell her to take a hike!!

Post # 63
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - City, State

@tanyanubin:  Agreed. My instinct is that she was just using the whole thing for “material” from the beginning.

Post # 64
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@volesnug:   You did really good in letting her know the way you did but I find it so rude that she STILL had to post something about it.

Post # 65
1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

After her post, I’d tell her I reconsidered my reconsideration and feel it would be best if she wasn’t in the Bridal Party at all..

Post # 66
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

bye bye Maid/Matron of Honor

Post # 67
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah I wouldn’t even allow her to be a bridesmaid. If she didn’t want to be involved she should of spoke up instead of having that crappy attitude.

Post # 68
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No response to your email but posts something on twitter that makes it obvious that she did read it….wow

I think inviting her to the next function is a good idea. When she shows up and makes more comments it will be time to give her the boot.

Post # 69
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow, just wow. This is terrible. She is terrible. Honestly, any person who is going to be that incredibly rude does not deserve any part in YOUR special day. You should surround yourself with people who love you and respect you. 

She definitely needs to be completely kicked out of the wedding party. Also, I would think you are completely justified if you completely decided to uninvite her to your wedding. 

Sounds harsh, but is this type of person really someone you see yourself being friends with after this?? 

Post # 70
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano\'s Humble

@volesnug:  LOL Good stuff! Sorry, I didn’t realize there was a response! But I bet she’d definitely appreciate a new purse 😀

As for the tweet, you specifically asked her not to blog or tweet the convo, so she latched onto it from another direction. I know you’re trying to be the bigger person, but you know what they say about bitches and stupid people. Don’t try to argue, they’ll bring you to their level and kick your ass with experience. In saying that, take your catty chance while you’ve got good reason for it, and cut her off. Seriously. Lord only knows what she’s blocking you from viewing, but is still viewable for others.

Post # 71
6263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

she would not even be invited to the wedding after her behavior less yet STILL a bridesmaid. Are u going for sainthood? Lol

Post # 72
527 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I don’t understand why this person is still in your wedding party let alone invited to the wedding..? If my future MoH said those things about my mother/wedding I would never speak to her again let alone have her share my most special day. 

Post # 73
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Brickette:  +1

you really should just kick this bitch out of your life OP. i would have blown up if i were u, i cant believe shes even still in ur life let alone wedding!

Post # 74
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh dear, I am so sorry you had to experience that. How unpleasant, and how rude! I too would be deeply wounded if a significant friend suddenly insulted my mother like that. I’m sorry, but that is unacceptable!

I had a friend for about 8 years, we were so close that we might as well have been sisters. This girl was my other half, and knew my deepest secrets. Last time I spoke to her was 4 years ago, right around the time that I met my current boyfriend. Out of the blue she just transformed, she started ignoring me, making excuses for not getting together. I remember I bought her a gift for her birthday and I wrote her an email that I am coming over with it. I called her probably 7 times that day, with no answer. Later on, I found out (its unimportant how), that she was at home, and saw my phone calls, but chose not to answer.I felt hurt. But more than anything – I felt confused! I still feel confused! It’s just such a sad thought that years of friendship could be erased over something that I am not even aware of! More likely than anything, it was probably due to jealousy – I found an SO and she didn’t…. something similar could be with your MoH perhaps? Maybe she is resentful that you are getting married and she isn’t?

In any case, jealousy or not, she shouldn’t be acting like this. She should have been supportive of you, and shown respect to your mother. She is the Maid of HONOR for godsakes, she should HAVE honor…

Don’t worry yourself over her too much, this is YOUR time! Enjoy the wedding planning and try to lessen the negative thoughts.

As for the wedding party – perhaps its not a good idea to stoop down to her level and exclude her completely, but maybe it would be wise to send her a notice that she can be the bridesmaid instead of a MoH, to lessen her responsibility?

Congratulations on the wedding love! All the best to you! And your mom is a rockstar, God bless her for all she does for you.


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