- 8 years ago
Okay so, I have been friends with my Maid/Matron of Honor and her sister since childhood… and when I say childhood I mean 5. That is a long friendship by most terms, and although we’ve had our ups and downs which included a few years where we didn’t speak because we had nothing in common, we always seem to find our way back to each other. Her sister, we’ll call her Ira, and I have not seen eye to eye for quite some time. We fell out of friendship somewhere around 13 and never have really connected again. Just to give an example why, when i was in the hospital right after I had my baby (at 19) Ira and Meg came into visit the day after I gave birth and while I was explaining how tired I was and how I was just realizing how much work my baby was going to be, Ira blurted out “well I guess you should have thought about that before you opened your legs”… cue end of friendship. I have done my best to be civil but every time I am around her she always has at least one rude comment up her sleeve.
Well as a child I promised both of them they could be in my wedding… that is before I started disliking Ira with a passion. I asked Meg to be my bridesmaid and at first things were kosher because I told her I had a small budget and only had money for three bridesmaids: my cousin, Meg and FI’s sister. Well, now FI’s sister has dropped out (a WHOLE other story) and I was talking about adding my other childhood friend Nikki into the wedding party when Meg completely freaked out saying “How can you ask Nikki over Ira? You are being really rude and I can’t believe you would take back your promise”… uh yea, sorry… forgot about that promise I made when I was 7 years old!
Point blank, Meg and Ira fight all the time as sisters do. Even if I could put up with Ira for more than an hour at a time she wouldn’t be included in my wedding… they have a tendency to be loud and obnoxious. Since the whole situation (I decided not to add ANY more bridesmaids) Meg has been blowing me off and I just found out having mutual friends not invite me to outings because she is still pissed. I have really hurt feelings and I’m just not sure what to do. I’m sure this will blow over by the time the wedding comes around but it is really bothering me… shouldn’t the bridesmaid selection be the brides choice!?