- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I have no idea what’s going on but my Maid/Matron of Honor is becomming very controlling and kinda going crazy. It started at my shower last weekend. She brought WAY too many games for people to play, then started getting snippy with my guests because they weren’t playing the right way. Some guests complained to me in the days that followed. After the shower was over, we were talking in the parking lot and she told me she spoke to the other bridesmaid that was planning the bachelorette party and said she couldnt have the party at her house anymore so I told her no problem, do whatever you want. Work it our amongst yourselves. She asked me what I wanted to do and I told her I wanted to go to the casino. A few days later, the other bm messaged me to ask me why my Maid/Matron of Honor is planning the bachelorette. I told her I thought she knew and that my Maid/Matron of Honor told me at the shower that you couldn’t do the party anymore. She said they didn’t talk but it’s fine and Maid/Matron of Honor can just plan the party. So not only did my Maid/Matron of Honor step on the toes of the Bridesmaid or Best Man I had asked to plan the bachelorette, but she also didnt listen to me when I said let’s just go to the casino.
Now Maid/Matron of Honor calls me this weekend to ask me for a guest list. I told her I’ll have it done in a hour and that I have invitations I wanted her to use. I actually bought them YEARS ago at a store that was stuck in the 80’s and when I got engaged 2.5 years ago, I really wanted to use them for the bachelorette party. They were perfect, totally retro, funny, and very me. Well she started to kind of flip out on me saying “Oh what, don’t you trust me to pick out invitations?” Uhhhhh… what?? I explaned I had the invites for years but I dont think she understood. I told her it’s fine, just do whatever she was going to do. I was actually kind of upset about this because I told people about my funny invitations and how excited I was to send them out… oh well.
Then she tells me that she didn’t buy the belt I asked everyone to buy. She went out and found her own. I asked them to get a lime green belt, and she said hers is a cilantro. I said that it’s fine but I need to see it so I can make sure I get the right color necklace otherwise it won’t match. I talked to her Saturday and told her to text me a picture… radio silence. I’ve called, texted and emailed and I can’t get a hold of her now.
I guess this is more of a rant than anything because clearly I’m just going to let her do whatever she wants anyway. This is new behavior from her, within the last week. The wedding is 3 weeks away, and I honestly have no idea how to even control the situation. I certainly don’t want any confrontations but she’s pissing a lot of people off. I am feeling so much anxiety right now…