(Closed) MOH is mad at me

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would just let it pass and not say anything if I were you. Sometimes weddings bring out emotions that in the future will seem petty.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not your fault, I’d try to let it go. = )

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree with the other ladies…just let it go. It’s not your fault and your Maid/Matron of Honor will get over it and realize she was acting like a child.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

my fbil waited, and waited, and waited, to get his pants for our wedding. my fi bugged him, and bugged him to get him, thinking they’d go out of stock. well by the time he got them, they were almost out of stock and therefore on sale for $7 from $45. everyone else of course was pissed that they paid $45, just because they went early. but too damn bad. some people just get lucky. like your bridesmaid who happened to find the right dress in a thriftstore. your moh will have to deal with it.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i think you can not control everything and this is just one of those things and at the time, thinking outside the box wasnt something that others thought of – the Bridesmaid or Best Man was just lucky enough to find a DB dress in the right colour at a thrift store, who would have thunk it

i think your Maid/Matron of Honor is being a bit hissy at you unfairly and hopefully she will calm down

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

You Maid/Matron of Honor needs to understand the things that you just stated in the third paragraph. If you’ve told her all these things, and she’s still upset, I’m willing to be she’s just jealous at the luck of your other bm being able to find the correct dress for dirt cheap. She shouldn’t blame anything on you or accuse you of anything. You’re not in the wrong. Good luck 🙂

Hope she comes around and sees it for what it was. A stroke of luck on the other bm’s part.

Post # 9
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

it’s not your fault. She will get over it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Has your Maid/Matron of Honor ever tried actually looking for something specific at a thrift store? They’re 99.9% crap. She’s fooling herself if she thinks that just going to search for one there is a viable option; your other bridesmaid just seriously lucked out. 

Ignore her 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Did you say they had to get it at David’s Bridal?  If not, then forget it, you only specified the color, maybe she misunderstood?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Wow you were pretty generous already.  I’m guessing your Maid/Matron of Honor is just pissed she didn’t have the same luck.  However, I’m guessing your Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t usually go into thrift stores (or perhaps never) or she might have thought of this. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This happened to my friend (whose wedding I was in last year). She had 6 bridesmaids, and her and her Maid/Matron of Honor picked out the dress. A week later one of the girls (who I am also friends with) found the exact dress at Ross. There were 3 there and for $30 each, we bought them all, knowing it would fit the other girl we were friends with. We immediately told the Maid/Matron of Honor so that she could let the others know, but they were in different cities and their Ross did not have them. They were pissed that they had to pay $150 for these dresses that we got for so cheap and tried to make a stink of it. The bride chose to ignore them and it eventually passed. 

I agree with AzinAugust…just ignore it. This is not your fault.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

Wow.  Sounds like some girl-on-girl jealousy/hating going on!  Ignore your Maid/Matron of Honor, she’s obviously just ticked off that someone else lucked out.  She’ll realize it’s not your fault sooner or later!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Whoooaahh…wait a second. 

From what I understand, part of the bridesmaid’s/MOH role is to not complain about what the bride decides on as far as a dress.  The bride might ask for feedback.  But ultimately she is the boss, it is her wedding.  If the BM/MOH doesn’t like it, they are free to turn down the invite.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Out of curiosity was the clover green dress that your bridesmaid found from the DB collection?

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