- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
One of my MOHs (I’m having 2) has been my best friend since preschool. We’ve always planned on being a part of each other’s big days and planned our weddings together as little girls, teenagers, and then young adults playing the waiting game. We were both in commited relationships. In fact, I thought she would be my Matron of Honor instead of my Maid of Honor. So did she. When my day finally came and Fiance popped the question, I called her and tearfully asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and she tearfully accepted. Everything was perfect. Then, THE NEXT DAY (I can’t even make this up), her boyfriend broke up with her. He had been cheating. They had been ringshopping and planning, and then he dropped this bomb on her. She was obviously devastated. I was there for her, of course, as she cried and apologized for raining on my parade and cried some more. I kept telling her that we had plenty of time to celebrate my big news and that her troubles were number one. As time went on (we are at 7 months now), I made sure not to talk about the wedding too much as I knew how much it would hurt her. I went to visit her a few times a month (she’s out of town) and we continued to speak almost daily. Recently, she hasn’t been answering my phone calls. We are talking like 6 weeks with me calling and then hearing nothing. I only know what has been going on in her life because our parents are also close. My bridesmaids got together to go get their dresses but she wasn’t there because she hasn’t answered my calls. When I did talk to her, she sounded even upset with me that she wasn’t included! She hasn’t been part of any planning, never shares ideas with me, and has no clue what is going on beyond the 2 e-mails I’ve sent my BMs and what her mother tells her.
I know she is going through a hard time. I cannot even imagine her pain. I feel like I am starting to become resentful, though, and worry that she will one day look back and feel regret that she hasn’t been a part of anything. She’s my best friend. I miss her. What should I do?