(Closed) MOH is MIA (mini-vent)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I don’t think you should confront her baout htis. I don’t think there is a problem with her not going to those appointments with, I don’t think that is a requirement to be a Maid/Matron of Honor. It sounds like you have had a long engagement (I had one too) and sometimes people just lose sight of the what is going on wedding wise. Maybe a lunch to catch up just the two of you would help you get back on the same page.

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Have you asked her for help?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No, you do not confront her about it but you can certainly say “hey I could really use some help with X, would you be able to come over and give me a hand sometime?”

 

It sounds like you’ve been engaged for a very long time, with a Maid/Matron of Honor around for a very long time.  I hate to say it but that can be serious over-kill.  Her duties are to support you day-of, not go to every appointment with you.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree that with long engagements, it’s kind of easy to lose that initial excitemnt…and also, it’s not implicit that a Maid/Matron of Honor goes to all these appointments and helps with all these tasks. I would probably ask her if she’d like to plan the bachelorette party, as that is a typical Maid/Matron of Honor task….but you can’t expect her to just volunteer herself. She probably has no idea what sort of assistance you might appreciate.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a few DIY projects and things to do for the wedding, and while I’m lucky enough that my nearest and dearest friends have offered to help, I also just asked Fiance to do some of them with me over the weekend… after all, it’s HIS wedding too!

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