- 6 years ago
Hey fellow bees,
I thought i’d share my mini vent about my Maid/Matron of Honor troubles. I asked my oldest friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor since I love her soooo much and she’s also better at “wedding stuff” then my other, younger friends. She gladly accepted and was super excited!
Here we are, less than 5 months before the wedding: lo and behold, my Maid/Matron of Honor hasn’t helped me with anything thus far. Correction, she went to Kleinfelds with me about 2 years ago just after I got engaged (I only started actually planning the wedding in November/December 2011) and we all went to buy all the bridesmaid dresses together. As of late, however, I’ve been sans Maid/Matron of Honor to go see the dress, the photographer, the florist, the invitations, etc. By default I’ve basically been doing everything with my Future Mother-In-Law (since Fiance isnt involved)… but I cant help but think that it would be nice to have a friend by my side to help me make decisions… especially a friend whose opinion I value so much.
On one hand, I totally understand that everyone has their own life and I don’t want to impose my schedule on other people. On the other hand, I really don’t think I’m being overly demanding, I would be ok with her just calling me up and asking if I need help with anything. She has just been totally MIA. Sometimes I feel like she doesn’t even care..
She’s known from early on that my Future In-Laws are throwing my bridal shower, so what is there left to do? As of right now I’m basically the one organizing my bachelorette party. Which, again, I don’t really mind it would just be nice to feel like I’m not in it alone. I know she means well, and has been really busy with work, so I’m hesistant to say anything at all.
Im exhausted. I’m in my final University semester, working part time, interning part time, converting to a new religion, and planning a wedding (no planner). I could use a hand, or just a close friend to talk me down from the matrimonal wedding planning insanity ledge (figure of speech of course, no actual ledge in sight )
Am I being overly dramatic? Should I politely confront her about this?
PS: Though this is classified in “emotional”, it does not characterize my mood that well… “conflicted” would probably be more adequate.