- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So my fiance and I JUST got engaged in June. As soon as we got engaged I received some very weird vibes from my sister. She didn’t seem that excited and since we were nearing the end of vacation she seemed way more concerned about how much money we spent on the trip (so we could pay her back if she paid more) rather than celebrating our engagement. I did confront her but her excuse was that she had known about it for months and of course she was excited. Yet, I continued to receive the cold shoulder for the rest of vacation.
Once we got home she asked me if she got to be my maid of honor 72 hours AFTER we just got engaged. Of course I was already considering her being my Maid/Matron of Honor since she is my sister but this just kind of rubbed me the wrong way. She said that she wanted to know if she was the Maid/Matron of Honor soley because she was my sister (like I was suppose to say something else). So ofcourse I said “well ya who else would be my MOH?”
So its been a few months since our engagement and the fiance and I got the venue and could start focusing on a few details. After some thought I decided I would like my sister in law to be a bridesmaid (we’re keeping our parties small) since well she is my sister in law and I’ve known her for over 10 years. I want her to be there for trying on bridesmaids dresses but my sister things 6 months out is not enough time.
And NOW they’re tyring to plan the bridal shower. I am obviously new to this so I don’t know if I’m even allowed to plan my own or have a say in it but people are talking about it without me. So my Maid/Matron of Honor wants it in my hometown but I would rather not (I am not a fan of the place, there is a reason I left).
Also when I mentioned that I wanted to do the bachelorette party 2 days before the wedding (most of my good friends and my sister in law are from out of state) she got upset because SHE wanted to do it the weekend before and so on and so on.
I just don’t know how to deal with all the negativity she’s throwing at me and how pushy she is about HER stuff. Plus she keeps saying “well at this wedding I went to they did it this way…” so thats been extra annoying.
HELP! Need advice on how to deal with all of this!