Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor is pregnant and has said she won’t fit into the dress she bought. The color the girls are wearing is grey and now she is looking to wear black and jazz up the dress. The only issue I have is I have been very liniant with her when it comes to shoes and such but now the dress color is completely changed for her. I am having a hard time with it because I’ve just been saying yes to whatever but when it came to the girls picking a dress I didn’t care of the style I said just wanted the same shade. I just don’t feel like I am getting what I want from this – her being the Maid/Matron of Honor should I just let it fly with black or should I be putting my foot down? If she isn’t willing to wear the dress at least i would like to look for another one in the same shade
Post # 2
It’s your wedding. You have every right to choose the color, particularly when you are allowing her to wear any style of dress she chooses. Put your foot down, but maybe send her some ideas as well if she’s having trouble finding something.
Post # 3
If you ask most of the bees, literally the only thing a bridesmaid is supposed to do is wear the right dress. Tell her it’s fine if she wants to change the dress because it’ll be more comfortable for her, but it has to be the color of your choosing. She can suck it up and wear grey for one day of her life.
Post # 4
ahauck: This isn’t the hill I would die on, and it’s not uncommon to see the Maid/Matron of Honor in a dress that’s a different color or length than the rest of the bridesmaids. If it’s absolutely imperative to your wedding that your wedding party all wear grey, then talk to her about it.
Post # 5
Often MOH’s wear a different color or shade from the bridesmaids so that they stand out. I don’t think you have much room to “put your foot down” when it comes to pregnancy. Hopefully the two of you can find a happy medium to agree upon.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone! I know its common for the Maid/Matron of Honor to stand out and then when you think a bit more about it – is it about the dress or the person. In any case I have a color theme and I want to stick with it – I am going to ask her if a reselect can be done in time for the big day and try and make this as an option
Post # 7
Ya I haven’t been a bridezilla at all and I am not about to become one over a dress – I just want to know if this is something she is willing to look into as well instead of just making a decision without checking out other options
Post # 8
I would let it slide. She’s pregnant and has enough on her plate! No one will care and your relationship with her is (hopefully!) more important than everything looking exactly like you want it to for a few hours.
Post # 9
If any of these are to your liking, and the price seems right, you could always send her the information and tell her it would be your alternative choice:
Post # 10
Personally, I don’t think pregnancy gives you an automatic free pass. As a past pregnant bridesmaid in a wedding, it’s not impossible to find another dress just because you’re pregnant. Give her the option to choose another gray dress if she doesn’t like the one she has, easy peasy.
Post # 11
Is black even one of your colors?
Post # 12
Good luck Bee! I would let it slide. Black and grey are pretty close to each other so just let her be comfortable 🙂 Maybe suggest a gray sash and shoes?
Post # 13
SpiderMum: totally agree. Pregnancy doesn’t give you a free pass!
Presuming black is not in your colour scheme? I know it would lookcompletely wrong in my wedding.
Post # 14
ahauck: can she not alter the dress?
Post # 15
Can the dress be altered?