(Closed) MOH is pregnant and won't wear the dress she picked

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
6610 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

It’s your wedding.  You have every right to choose the color, particularly when you are allowing her to wear any style of dress she chooses.  Put your foot down, but maybe send her some ideas as well if she’s having trouble finding something.

Post # 3
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If you ask most of the bees, literally the only thing a bridesmaid is supposed to do is wear the right dress. Tell her it’s fine if she wants to change the dress because it’ll be more comfortable for her, but it has to be the color of your choosing. She can suck it up and wear grey for one day of her life.

Post # 4
2181 posts
Buzzing bee

ahauck:  This isn’t the hill I would die on, and it’s not uncommon to see the Maid/Matron of Honor in a dress that’s a different color or length than the rest of the bridesmaids. If it’s absolutely imperative to your wedding that your wedding party all wear grey, then talk to her about it. 

Post # 5
5048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Often MOH’s wear a different color or shade from the bridesmaids so that they stand out.  I don’t think you have much room to “put your foot down” when it comes to pregnancy.  Hopefully the two of you can find a happy medium to agree upon.

Post # 8
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I would let it slide. She’s pregnant and has enough on her plate! No one will care and your relationship with her is (hopefully!) more important than everything looking exactly like you want it to for a few hours.

Post # 9
3051 posts
Sugar bee

If any of these are to your liking, and the price seems right, you could always send her the information and tell her it would be your alternative choice:

From Asos:

Post # 10
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Personally, I don’t think pregnancy gives you an automatic  free pass. As a past pregnant bridesmaid in a wedding, it’s not impossible to find another dress just because you’re pregnant. Give her the option to choose another gray dress if she doesn’t like the one she has, easy peasy.

Post # 11
1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Is black even one of your colors?

Post # 12
1420 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Good luck Bee! I  would let it slide. Black and grey are pretty close to each other so just let her be comfortable 🙂 Maybe suggest a gray sash and shoes?

Post # 13
742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

SpiderMum:  totally agree.  Pregnancy doesn’t give you a free pass! 

 Presuming black is not in your colour scheme? I know it would lookcompletely wrong in my wedding. 

Post # 14
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015


ahauck:  can she not alter the dress? 

Post # 15
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Can the dress be altered? 

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