Post # 1
Okay so last year my Maid/Matron of Honor got married and I was her Maid/Matron of Honor, I ALWAYS offered to do whatever she needed me to. I was there for her when she needed help making things, emotional support..whenever…
Okay well now the tables are turned and she hasnt been helping with much at all. One of my BMs is helping WAYY more than her. We actually got into an argument and she feels like the only time I call her is when I need something, which is soooo not true but she always is way too busy for me.
Well I decided that I wanted us all to wear chucks for the wedding, I was going to bling the gurls out and I thought thatd make cute pics..well I get a text from her saying thats an extra charge that she really doesnt wanna do, and its not too much of her style…but Im thinking, ITS AN EXTRA CHARGE FOR ME TOO, DUHH!! Her excuse was that she already bought a dress she’ll never wear again (she hated the dress I picked out for them) But im thinking, Im never gonna wear my dress again either…
And for her wedding, I always told her do what YOU want its your day..I would think she had the same courtesy but apparently not…
So anyway, I just said forget it wear whatever you wanna wear, but I still REALLY want chucks…what should I do?
Post # 3
Sorry you are having to go through this, but what about gifting the girls the chucks. Chucks aren’t really my style either, and I know I would never wear them again, but if the bride gifted them to me, I would be happier to wear them. Also, your wedding is only a little over a month away and she just may not have the funds to make another purchase. I kept the costs to a minimum for my girls. Basically all they had to pay for was their travel. I paid for everything else; including their dresses and shoes.
Post # 4
@noritake22: Thats a great idea!!
If I had the money I wouldve paid for EVERYTHING, but its really hard right now. So I like the gift idea! Im only gonna wear them once too, I just thought it’d make for cute pictures.
Post # 5
Chucks are pretty inexpensive so the PP’s ideas are good. If you can’t pay and she still doesn’t like the idea that they “aren’t her style”, well… tell her to wear whatever she wants then. If everyone else in the bridal party will be wearing chucks I am sure she will decide to get in the spirit and if she doesn’t… she’ll feel like the silly one. Or if she’s having enough fun no one will notice and the pictures will be cute and funny with one person wearing different shoes. I think no sense arguing with a friend over $50 shoes.
Post # 6
@Jasminelani: You are very welcome, and it will make for very cute pictures 🙂