(Closed) MOH issues…

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

meh.  she may still be willing to help even if she doesnt want to be Maid/Matron of Honor.  ive been in about 6 weddings in the last 2 years.  ive told all my friends im not doing it anymore.  its not personal.  she’s still your friend.  its not a judgement on your relationhip.  she may really just not have the energy to do it again, especially if she’s delt with some really crazy bridezillas.  and she could feel totally differently 2 years from now.

Post # 4
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think three years is a long time, and many things could change for her.

I also think that as her friend, you should make extra effort to spend time with her NOT talking about your wedding.

Is she single? Do you have any friends she might like to meet? Does your FI? What about having a small get together at your place, and invite some single folks? Maybe not with the expectation that she will hit it off with someone, but just to be around some other new people that are also single. I know when I was single and all my friends were with SOs, I had a hard time finding others in the same boat as I was in. It would have definitely cheered me to be with other singles.

Your friendship will go far beyond your wedding day, so take care of the friendship and see what happens. You have plenty of time regarding MOHs

Post # 6
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In 3 years, things will change.  I would just let it go for now and when the day comes for you to choose your bridal party, deal with the outcome at that time.  There is no need to stress over something that may not be an issue in the future.  Just let it go for now.

Post # 7
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agree with Mandy.  In three years you may have new friends that might be thrilled to be your Maid/Matron of Honor when the time comes.  Be open to what the future holds right now in all areas.

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