- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding and we’ve been bffs since 1st grade. Couldn’t picture anyone else up there with me, besides my sister. SO things were going great, we would talk about all my ideas, she started getting stuff for the bachelorette party, but then I found the bm dresses I wanted them to wear. They were ones I saw on another bees page that her mom had made, LOVED them! I have a friend who is an excellent seamstress and said she could make them all. I was so excited to have finally picked a great dress that I thought everyone would love. Everyone did…except her. She thought it was too risky to have someone make them and maybe them not coming out right or not getting done on time, this was back in May and I’m getting married in March. So she told me that she would NOT spend money on something that may not turn out right, she couldn’t take back, and was too risky.
I was so shocked that this was her response, I was close to going bridezilla on her and stating that this dress was way better than the one she made me spend $140 on for hers. I had gone out and gotten the fabric to make a practice dress(cost me $25). But I changed my mind on it since she put up such a fight, and then one of my other bridesmaids moved to CA, so it would have been hard for her. She keeps bringing up how much I change my mind and thinks I need to stop. I have had over a year to think about things, so when new things come out it makes me wonder if I should do something else. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t talk to her about my ideas anymore. I picked the bridesmaid dresses and everyone but her knows it. I just corrected that though lol I just sent out an email to everyone regarding the dress.
And then the latest incident, which was my fault, her birthday was last month and apparently some of the things I said were taken the wrong way. I was having a bad week, jury duty not sleeping, and so didn’t even really feel up to going. But I wanted to be there for her, we’ve been friends for 20 years and me being in a not so good mood wasn’t going to keep me from going(maybe it should have). She is self conscious about her feet(she’s a 9, I’m an 8), she got some really cute shoes and I said that I wish she had smaller feet so we could share. She later told me that she was hurt by my remark and said she told me before that she doesn’t like that comment. I apologized a lot and told her I honestly didn’t remember her saying that but it would never happen again. I would make it up to her. I apologized for my whole behavior that night.
I’ve tried to talk to her a few times, but get short replys and she stated she is still a little hurt and angry about some things I said. She accepted my apology, but it feels like it is still awkward and like things won’t get back to normal. I feel really bad about hurting her and wish she would talk to me. We have been in worse arguments and we’ve been able to patch things up quickly. I don’t know why things are different this time.
Just needed to vent, thanks for reading.