(Closed) MOH Issues please help…btw I fired her

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it acceptable for me to ask a bridesmaid to order her dress by April 1st? , $ is not an issue
    No, trust she will get it in time for your wedding : (5 votes)
    22 %
    Yes, she is a BM and knew going in part of her job is to reduce your stress. Not add to it. : (11 votes)
    48 %
    Explain your reasoning and concern for ordering early and let her know how relieved you would be : (7 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
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    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    No excuse for her- the least she can do is check her schedule and shoot you an email. Tell her you’re still friends but obviously she doesn’t value being in your bridal party, so she’s not going to be in it. I wouldn’t count on her for anything and it’s going to be a pain in the butt to get her to come to any parties so why bother calling her a bridesmaid?

    Post # 4
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    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @danicalifornia:  I agree.

    I wouldn’t have her in your wedding party at all. She is obviously too busy and you need women you can count on. There is no excuse for the way she has been treating you. I don’t know her, but maybe it is a jealousy thing. She seems to be more respondant to non wedding talk than wedding talk. Maybe it is a sore spot for her. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yea, some people just don’t do well in a bridal party…I would keep her out.

    Post # 6
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    46408 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you still want her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I think it is fair to ask her to meet your deadline for ordering her dress. If she doesn’t want to do that, I would suggest you change her title to “guest”.

    Post # 7
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I read somewhere that Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses should be ordered at least 4 months ahead of time if they aren’t buying off the rack, so I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor about it and she said she and my BMs should order at least 6 months ahead of time!  She’s been in a ton of weddings, so I trust her advice.  I agree with PPs, sounds like she has some issues with being in the wedding and I’d just invite her as a guest.  You don’t need the stress or any negativity.

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