(Closed) MOH just got engaged a few weeks ago…set her date 6 days before mine.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

It is disappointing. Is she going on her honeymoon right after? Will she still be able to attend your wedding??

While it’s a bit disappointing that she’s doing it a mere 6 days before yours, try to focus on the fact that you’re both getting married to the men you love and now you get to plan together! Woot! My BFF had her wedding 2 weeks before me and we made it work. We even had a combined bachelorette party…so much fun. Try to think about how much fun the next year of your life will be planning together!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Agreed! Look at this experience together as a positive thing – it will all be okay and probably a lot of fun going thru this next year together. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@2PeasinaPod:  It is disappointing. Is she going on her honeymoon right after? Will she still be able to attend your wedding??

 

yeah, this is what i was thinking, too

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

@BellaDee:  Trust me…I know! With my BFF’s wedding 2 weeks prior and my old roommate’s 3 weeks after, it was financially tough for us too. And not to mention that they were also far away. It’s definitely something that is going to be super challenging to get through, but she’s your best friend! I’m sure you want her to be as happy as you are on your wedding day too! Just try to be sure you budget for the extra money you’re going to have to dish out just before.

We had 7 weddings the year we got married aside from our own. I was in 2 of them and my Darling Husband was in one. It was definitely the year of the wedding for us, but it’s an exciting thing that so many people are finding their happiness! Please try to make the best of it…you can always complain to us or to your Darling Husband, but put on a happy face for everyone else!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My cousin got engaged 10 months after I did and she picked a date the same week as our wedding 4 days earlier. I was crushed. She had known about our date and we’d been planning for so long but she had to sneak in there and plan here wedding fast with 5 months to the day. She ended up not even inviting us to her wedding or coming to ours even though her daughter was our flower girl. I’m so sorry this is happening to you I remember how sad I was and how our family felt overwhelmed. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I went to a wedding a week after mine that was 3 hours away and they came to ours – Everything was fine!

We just bumped our honeymoon back a couple weeks!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@BellaDee:  As much as that sucks it could always be worse. A friend of mine is getting married in 3 weeks and her other friend got engaged after her and set her date the weekend before her wedding as well, the kicker you ask???? The other friend bought the same dress as my friend!!!! So not only will they have a lot of the same people going to both weddings but the second bride will get to be seen first in the dress even though she set her date after! Now that would really make me mad!

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I would say that mayhap you should plan to drive out to their wedding, not drink much, and then drive home late that night.  It’s a short drive for a friend and will save you money.  Other than that I have no advice that you haven’t already given yourself.  She cannot change her date, so you’ll just have to get used to it.  Sorry.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

@LauraRose:  LOL If I were the bride who bought it first someone would have to go to great lengths to get me NOT to wear my dress to her wedding out of spite. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it was rude of her to pick that date, but there’s not much you can do about it. If I were you I would consider changing YOUR date. I just don’t think I would risk having the weddings six days apart and definitely not with yours being second. Is your date set in stone?

I am in three weddings this year and one was my own (I was first and also engaged after the other two), but I made sure to give my bridesmaids at least 4 weeks before their wedding…I ended up giving her 8!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t see the problem. Coordinate the dates of both of your showers and bachelorettes 6 months out and call it a day. If you don’t think you can be there for her as Maid/Matron of Honor, you can ask tostep down to bridesmaid capacity. 

Knowing this now, save up now and plan as if your wedding is a month earlier than it is- get everything done early and you won’t have to stress. That’s good advice regardless of when your friend’s wedding is. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

OMG I’d be SO PISSED!!! Wear white to it!!

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