Post # 1
I’ve asked one of my lifelong best friends to be my matron of honor. I was her maid of honor, and I can’t imagine anyone else but her and my sister in the Maid/Matron of Honor slots. However, she now lives 3,000 miles away and I don’t think that she’ll get the time away from work to be able to come AND see her husband’s family for Christmas. She feels awful about it, and I’m pretty bummed too. How can I make her feel better about it and feel included in the wedding?
Post # 3
@Grizz: Tell her that you understand, and it’s sad, but her family comes first. Perhaps you could put her name in the program anyway, and the day of, you could send her some flowers in an arrangement similar to what she would be carrying as your Maid/Matron of Honor. She would probably feel very honored.
Post # 4
@GreenEyedMoon: I LOVE that idea! It made me teary eyed 🙂
Post # 5
have someone Skype with her during the wedding if its an option that way she can be looking in the whole time 🙂
Post # 6
@Grizz: Just wanted to let you know what a breath of fresh air this post is. A lot of brides (not just on here, but in general) would have lamented that their Maid/Matron of Honor was ruining their day – you seem to be showing a genuine love for your friend, rather than just focusing on the wedding as your day and your day only. Major props – as a bee planning her wedding, I really hope that I can keep such a level-head about it, too.
Post # 7
@gjj424: amen! thanks for pointing that out!
Post # 8
I just can’t stand the thought of them having to choose between Christmas with family or my wedding, so we’ll see them at Christmas Its his first holiday after coming back from Iraq, and it’ll be their first Christmas together since they got married FOUR AND A HALF years ago!
Post # 9
Thank you for this post, one of my best friends is unable to afford travel expenses to come 1300 miles to be a bridesmaid. I want to include her as well, and I might follow the two ideas here, to have someone skype her the day of, and to also send her some flowers similar to the ones my bridesmaids will be carrying with a note of significance. 🙂