(Closed) MOH moved away last summer and won't talk to me anymore?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’d plan on having one of your other girls take her place.. your Maid/Matron of Honor seems to have a lot going on and might be overwhelmed.. communicating that would have been nice on her part and I don’t believe there is much excuse for that. You have to do what you have to do,she can’t be butt hurt if she shows up and her spot has been taken, but I wouldn’t count on her showing up at all.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

formerpunkqueen:  Have you tried phoning her rather than texting? If you manage to contact her, I would tell her that “I understand that friendships change and evolve over time, that if she has moved on and no longer wants to be Maid/Matron of Honor, just tell me and that I am OK with it. I just need to know where she stands. By not answering my texts, I am left to assume that the issue is uncomfortable for her, annd that she doesn’t answer because she is worried about hurting my feelings. I would assure her that I would love for them to come to the wedding if they are able, even if she steps down as Maid/Matron of Honor, but I would understand if it was not possible.”

If you can’t speak to her I would send the same message by text or email, and add” If I don’t hear back from you, I wiill assume that you have moved on and are no longer able to serve as Maid/Matron of Honor. If you would like an invitation to the wedding, please send their address.”

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

formerpunkqueen:  what’s the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress situation? Has she gotten hers yet? Has she been invloved in the shower, bachelorette party? Anything to do with the wedding? I udnerstand her having a lot going on with being pregnant that your wedding probably isn’t foremost on her mind. But, I don’t understand why she won’t talk to you at all. It sounds like their move was kind of sudden, do you know the reasoning behind that? There might be something a lot bigger going on in their lives right now that you don’t know about. The whole thing seems very odd to me… something’s not adding up.

I would send one last message. Something like: “hey, I know you’ve got a lot going on with the baby and the move, so I understand why our relationship has changed a little but I’m worried about you. I just want to hear how you’re doing and wonder if I’ve done anything to upset you. I would still love for you to be Maid/Matron of Honor at our wedding but I would understand if that’s a responsibility you no longer wish to have. Please just let me know either way. And if you’d still like to come to the wedding please send me your address. Just know that I’m always here for you”

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

There has to be more going on here. The fact that they are both ignoring both you and your Fiance…that’s not just pre-baby business. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

is there anyone else who knows them that might be able to reach out? its one thing when there is a post like this from a bee that is saying the Maid/Matron of Honor bailed on doing some silly chore with her but not even being able to get an address for the invite 3 weeks out and no replies to facebook posts that you know she saw is really weird

you aren’t being crazy here – this Maid/Matron of Honor is definitely in the wrong and I hope that she can come up with some explanation as to whats going on/at least give you a clear answer if she will be attending

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House

Agreeing with PPs that there has to be something else going on here. It seems fishy that she’s reading them and not replying and you both are getting clearly cold shouldered. Did anything happen with the group of youi?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

This all seems very strange, I really hope you get some answers or closure. Do you know anyone local to them who could help?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

formerpunkqueen:  Sorry to hear that, I think you just have to get on with your wedding which it sounds like you’re doing 🙂 Still find it all very odd! You’ll have to let us know if she does turn up on the day

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