(Closed) MOH, need help.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

 

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bangarang:  I would ask her what she wants you to be in charge of as many brides are different. Most MOH’s help with the bachlorette party, and bridal shower. I have a long distance MOH(shes in Cali, I’m in Minn), and she’s taking care of both those things. There isn’t anything else for her to really do, other than show up on my wedding day.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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bangarang:  I would talk to the bride and see what she could use help with and expects you to do. I think it’s the pretty popular opinion on the bee that bridesmaids, including MOH’s, aren’t really “expected” to do anything other than get a dress and show up on the big day (preferably sober 🙂 ).

However, many do things like plan the bachelorette party/bridal shower, help pick our the bridesmaid dresses, coordinate the other bridesmaids etc. My Maid/Matron of Honor is also on the other side of the country and she just asked what she could help with from afar (which unfortunately is not much, but that’s totally okay and was so sweet of her to ask). Just talk to your friend, let her know that you want to be there for her as much as you can with the distance and talk expectations! I know mine wanted to fly in for my dress purchase, bachelorette and wedding. While that was so sweet and meant a lot to me, I knew that was way too much to ask for and we worked out a better plan so she would only have to fly out once. The best thing you can do as a long distance Maid/Matron of Honor is to check in with her via text and phone and let her (perhaps obnoxioulsy) vent about wedding stress if needed! You’re a great friend to even ask this question!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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bangarang:  It sounds like you are a good friend to a seemingly faily laid back bride. Just continue to support her where you can. It sounds like she knew what she was doing when she asked you! 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ditto on asking the bride. You are planning a bachelorette and a shower? Most of all, be there for the bride and be supportive, do not judge or complain. At the wedding, pay attention to her dress and veil, she might not tell you that.  🙂

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