- 5 years ago
Okay, so I feel like the worst Maid/Matron of Honor ever. My baby sister is getting married. I’m happy for her but I just don’t think I can handle this whole process. Let me explain: I’m 26 & happily dating someone for 7 years now. No, we aren’t engaged. We have lived together for almost 5 years now. Due to family situations that were out of our control, his early 20’s were spent taking care of a disabled family member. He had to put off college and is just now going to college. We actually moved out of state for him to attend his dream college. He will be done in a year. Okay, my sister and bride to be, is 21 and her & her future hubby have been together since she was 15. When they got engaged – I will admit, it was a bit of a shock. And then it all began. The comments, the planning, this horrible feeling. The night they got engaged my dad, meaning well, said “Don’t worry, you can still beat her to the alter, they aren’t getting married for a while.” (Her wedding is fall 2014) On top of that we have had so many people ask us when we were going to get married, if I was okay with her getting married first, her asking if I was jealous, her husband to be asking if I would be upset if they had kids before me. Then it was my sister…she has pretty much put this entire planning process on me. I’ve helped 3 friends with their weddings and my sister has assumed that I would be the planner. She wants me to find everything, all of her options for everything – venue, food, decorations, literally everything. She says that she is too busy to do any of this because she is working full time and is still in college, and since I am done with school and just working full time, she thinks that I have the time. I literally got a voicemail from her telling me that she doesn’t want to know the process of this wedding planning that I just need to figure out her options and email them to her so that she can decide. Let me say, I did volunteer to HELP when she needed it but not plan the entire thing. I don’t even live in the same state as her, so here I am trying to plan an entire wedding that isn’t even mine from 4 hours away, trying to get my life in order, all while listening to our family make comments about how I am not going to get married at this rate and how I should be grateful to be planning my sisters wedding. I hate it. And I feel like a horrible sister for feeling this way. Help? Advice? Am I wrong to feel this way?