- 5 years ago
Hey, I’ve been checking the msg boards for tips on all things bridal since I got engaged last September. I really hadn’t felt the need to post until today. Yesterday my moh and I got in a text msg fight, awhile back I had informed her that my sister had offered to host my bridal shower, it was about 4 months till the wedding at the time and Maid/Matron of Honor had not mentioned any plans of holding a shower, plus this will be a ladies brunch with my extremely conservative and religious mother, all Maid/Matron of Honor had discussed was maybe is bridesmaids doing a superhero themed pub crawl, which sounds awesome to me, but I am my mother’s youngest child and would like her to have as big a part in the wedding festivities as possible. So I told my Maid/Matron of Honor all of this and that I liked her idea of the superhero pub crawl for the bachelorette party, she seemed ok with it at the time but out of the blue she text me asking if I even wanted her in the wedding. I was taken aback. I said of course I did, if she wants to be and reiterated my reasoning for letting my sister host the shower as well as a few other reasons including that my sisters has the perfect setup for parties in her back yard, I’m not that close to her and this will help us bond, and that I know my Maid/Matron of Honor is dealing with alot right now (going to school full time, working part time, mother of two and livea with her mom 3hrs away and is extremely broke and seems angry at the world). She said since I only wanted her to do the fun party I must think she’s childish and that I didn’t think she could pull it off. And if I would let her “participate” she wasn’t interested. I don’t know what she is even talking about, if she wanted to help with the shower she could have just asked, she still hadn’t planned anything for my bachelorette party, and i told her she had seemed bored with wedding planning talk, she interiors or her eyes just glaze over and the most she’s said about the wedding is that I’m going to have all these decorations just like her sister, well she hated her sisters wedding. I also told her that she seemed really angry and like she was trying to pick fight all the time and that she was trying to make my wedding and a party for me about her and that how much she participates is up to her. I have not heard back from her, and I’m sick, I don’t want to loose a friend but I feel like if she can’t step up and be by my side on my big day then what kind of friend is she?
She will probably people what a controlling bridezilla I am, but that I far from the case. She has fought me every step of the way. I want ed everyone in infinity dresses, she didn’t want to wear one, so I picked the color and told everyone to get tea length dresses, she wants a long one, I said your the MPH so that’s fine. I want everyone in flip flops for our beach wedding she says she got some kinda toenail thing going on and wants to wear close toed shoes, I don’t really care do I caved on everything, i just want them to be comfy standing by me and supporting me. To top it off her and my fiance don’t care for each othet, but then again she doesn’t like anyone for long. Thanks for letting me vent. I know that in the end it will all work out, but I really didn’t want any drama less than 2 months before the wedding.