Post # 1
While I am patiently waiting for my SO to propose… my best friend for the past 25 years is getting married in June 2013. Her sister is her Maid/Matron of Honor and she is unorganized and lazy. Her wedding party involves 10 girls that are spread across the US and things need to start happening yet she hasn’t even taken the first step. These women are going to have to book flights for the bridal shower/hen night/wedding and that needs to be done well in advance. It seems I am doing all the jobs that the real Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed to do. I sent out and email with all the bridesmaids information and how they know the bride, gave them hotel and airport listings for the area, and even offered for them to stay at my house. I have accompanied the bride to all her appointments and even was the one who found her wedding dress. Should I say something to the bride about her Maid/Matron of Honor sister or just let it go?
Post # 3
I would make sure everything that needs to happen, happens. You sound like a great friend for stepping up even though its not technically your role.
I think the bride will be able to figure out that it is you behind this. She may have reasons she assigned this to her sister.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry. Some of those girls probably won’t come for the bridal shower or hens’ night, and if they do, the onus is on them to organise their flights, not yours. There really is lots of time. I don’t think you can be harsh on the Maid/Matron of Honor for not having events planned 9 months before the wedding. Many engagements are shorter than this.
If you’d rather be the one to organise one of these pre-wedding events, make sure you talk to the bride so that you’re not organising things in competition with each other. As for the dress, I can assure you the bride is well aware of the help you’re giving.
Post # 5
The Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t have to do any of those things- they choose to. In this case your friends Maid/Matron of Honor is choosing not to. That is between your friend and her Maid/Matron of Honor.
Anyone can plan a bachelorette or shower. If you want to do it then go right ahead but don’t make this a competition about who would be a better Maid/Matron of Honor. Do it because you would like to do something nice for your friend.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@CostaJ: Honestly, it sounds like you are jumping the gun. Bridal showers are usually about 2 months before the wedding and bachelorette/hen festivities even later.
Post # 7
I’m sure the bride knows what’s up with her Maid/Matron of Honor, and it really isn’t necessary that she do anything yet. If it gets down to 3 months before the wedding and nothing is planned, then you can take over.