(Closed) MOH not doing her job

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would make sure everything that needs to happen, happens. You sound like a great friend for stepping up even though its not technically your role.

I think the bride will be able to figure out that it is you behind this. She may have reasons she assigned this to her sister.

Post # 4
7749 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t worry. Some of those girls probably won’t come for the bridal shower or hens’ night, and if they do, the onus is on them to organise their flights, not yours. There really is lots of time. I don’t think you can be harsh on the Maid/Matron of Honor for not having events planned 9 months before the wedding. Many engagements are shorter than this.

If you’d rather be the one to organise one of these pre-wedding events, make sure you talk to the bride so that you’re not organising things in competition with each other. As for the dress, I can assure you the bride is well aware of the help you’re giving.

Post # 5
8365 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

The Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t have to do any of those things- they choose to. In this case your friends Maid/Matron of Honor is choosing not to. That is between your friend and her Maid/Matron of Honor.

Anyone can plan a bachelorette or shower. If you want to do it then go right ahead but don’t make this a competition about who would be a better Maid/Matron of Honor. Do it because you would like to do something nice for your friend.


Post # 6
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@CostaJ:  Honestly, it sounds like you are jumping the gun. Bridal showers are usually about 2 months before the wedding and bachelorette/hen festivities even later.

Post # 7
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m sure the bride knows what’s up with her Maid/Matron of Honor, and it really isn’t necessary that she do anything yet. If it gets down to 3 months before the wedding and nothing is planned, then you can take over. 

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