(Closed) MOH not ordering dress!! (rant)

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

yikes… no advice but totally supportin you as the months are ticking by and the dress needs to be ordered! 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

That’s stressful! I hope you can get ahold of her soon!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

How long do they need?  I haven’t ordered my dress yet for a wedding I’m in at the beginning of April, and it’s not a problem yet at all.  Also, just because you think it’s not a financial issue doesn’t mean it isn’t.  Just remind her to place the order.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t think you should feel bad about this. I would just call her and remind her to order the dress. Explain the situation with the dress shop and ask her if she would be able to order it within the next week. I mean she is your Maid/Matron of Honor and she did agree to having to buy a dress. Plus $150 is not a lot for a dress.

Hope it works out!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I would just call the store and have them place the order for the other two dresses.  Do you know if it’s just that she doesn’t have the money to hand, and that’s the only reason she’s not ordering?  Or is something else holding her back?

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Ugh.  No real advice, just wanted to say I totally understand your frustration.  I hope your Maid/Matron of Honor talks to you about it soon.  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

ugh…good reason to rant.  is she still onboard to be in the wedding?  i know i am a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding in a few months and the Maid/Matron of Honor dropped off the face of the planet, hopefully it is not like that in your situation.  is she married?  could she be jealous????

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, if it comes down to it, you may just need to pay for it yourself.  Times are tough right now and maybe she jsut doesn’t have the money and is embarassed so she has kept making excuses when you have brought it up.  In the grand scheme of things, if you front the $150, would it really be a big deal?  Perhaps you can say that you paid for it and that she can pay you back for it over time. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It’s simple, just tell her that X date (give her 2 weeks) is the deadline and if her dress isn’t ordered by then she’s either responsible for rush charges to get her dress or as much as you want her to she just won’t be able to be in the wedding.

Really though, here are two thoughts I have:

– Ordering in November (actually your girls were ordering in September) for a June wedding seems early to me. So does a March fitting. When I was a bridesmaid they wouldn’t even look at my dress until 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Maybe she feels that she has plenty of time.

– Just because she makes double what you do does not mean she’s in a better position than you financially. You don’t know what her other expenses could be or where her money goes.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t want to ruffle any feather when I say this, but if you knew all of this going in, why did you ask her to be your MOH?  It sounds like she is pretty irresponsible.  When you mentioned that she said she couldn’t afford it, I just figured that she doesn’t make very much money.  Perhaps she has a lot of debt you don’t know about.  I don’t know – I am just throwing things out there at this point that might explain why she won’t purchase it. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry you have to deal with that. = (

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