- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I’m so stuck on who to pick as my MOH! I’m torn between choosing my oldest friend or my closest friend. Here are the details:
oldest friend – have been friends since high school when my fiance and I first started dating. We’re still really close but could not be more different, especially at this point in our lives when I’m building a career and getting married and she is still trying to figure herself out. We’re in touch fairly regularily, but honestly don’t have much in common at this point. I know she would be hurt if I didn’t ask her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, unless maybe I asked my younger sister instead.
closest friend – we lived together all through college and have remained pretty close since graduation. We talk often, especially now that she is also engaged and planning a wedding. We have way more in common so I usually call her when I have work or wedding stress to discuss. I honestly don’t think she will ask me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor because she has several close friends from childhood, but I adore her as does my fiance and I think she would be a great Maid/Matron of Honor.
sister – I’m also planning to ask my little sister to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. We’re not at all close and never really have been, but I guess it would be an easy “out” to ask her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor if I think it would be easier than choosing a friend.
Probably more than you need to know, but I’m also asking an old college friend and a more recent post-college friend to be in our wedding.
Ok, so as far as I see it my options are:
#1 oldest friend as Maid/Matron of Honor
#2 closest friend as Maid/Matron of Honor
#3 oldest friend of Maid/Matron of Honor and closest friend as Matron (we haven’t set dates yet, but it looks like she will get married a couple of months before me). Of course this option seems to make sense, but I worry it will make the honor less special for both of my friends if I go this route. Maybe it’s not a big deal though…
#4 take the easy route and ask my little sister to be Maid/Matron of Honor.
Would LOVE some advice on this! My poor finance doesn’t know how to help me talk this through anymore and of course I can’t discuss this with my favs, so I’m stuck!!!