(Closed) MOH owes my mom money.. what should I do?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Member
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

You shouldn’t do anything, IMO. If she’s an unemployed student, how do you expect her to get the funds to pay her back?

(And it’s Fiance, 2 e’s are for the bride 2 be)

Post # 5
Member
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@love4sean: No need to get mean, I was just trying to help. I didn’t know at one point in time and was grateful that someone told me.

Post # 6
Member
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If your mom is okay with it, I’d just let it go. It sounds like she understands your SIL’s circumstances and isn’t going to sweat about it.

Post # 8
Member
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If she couldn’t afford the dress then she had no business borrowing money from your mom. I have to think she forgot about the money. How much does she owe her? If I were you I’d shoot her a text next time your meeting up just saying “hey do you mind bringing the $50 (or whatever it is) you owe my mom for the dress? thanks”. Real simple. doesn’t need to be dramatic. This way if she just forgot it’ll remind her in a nonembarassing way. If she is avoiding it because she doesn’t have the money, well this will let her know that it hasn’t been forgotten and she needs to figure out a way to get the money.

Post # 10
Member
1222 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think there is much you can do, unfortunately. My pathetic excuse for a Maid/Matron of Honor (not saying that’s your Maid/Matron of Honor, just mine) also owes my mother money, but we’ll never see a dime of it. If your mom has no issues w/ it I’d let it go. You don’t seem angry or bitter about it, which is great. If down the line your mom wants to be paid back I’d let her casually mention it.

Post # 11
Member
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think you should get involved.  It’s between your mom and her.  Do not make yourself a middle man.

If your mom wants the money back, she can bring it up.  If she is ok with being out the money, then leave it be.

Post # 12
Member
1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would just let it go, because that’s what your mom would like to do.  You mentioned your mom is very generous, and by just letting it go, she’s further showing how generous she is.  Because your Maid/Matron of Honor is unemployed, I would guess she’s having a hard time paying for necessities, and is probably embarassed that she hasn’t been able to repay your mom.  Who knows, maybe she’ll come up with the money when she has it.  I don’t think I’d let the cost of a dress cause potential drama with a friend/relative.  If your mom needed the money, and was upset about the situation, I’d consider talking about it with the friend, but because your mom is being so nice about it, I’d let it go.

Post # 13
Member
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Trust me, I doubt she’s forgotten about the money.  I’ve been a poor student (and still kind of am, and I remember every dollar that was lent to me from a friend and stressed about it until I paid it back).  If your mom says not to worry about, don’t butt in.  She obviously knew your SIL’s situation.  If your mom lent the money, then she had to know there was a chance she would not get it back. And who knows, maybe your SIL does have a plan to pay her back once she gets back on her feet.

Post # 14
Member
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@love4sean: No prob. 🙂 You might want to tell your Fiance, I still think you shouldn’t be the mediator (just so you don’t cause drama in your new family) but I don’t keep anything from my Fiance. Anyway, she really might just not have the money, I would let your Fiance know that it’s no big deal, but see if he could ask her if she was going to be able to come up with the funds. If not, your Mom seems ok with it and I would just let it go.

Post # 15
Member
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

“She obviously knew your SIL’s situation.  If your mom lent the money, then she had to know there was a chance she would not get it back.”

I’m with those that say if she couldn’t afford to pay it back (and quickly!) then she shouldn’t have accepted the money! 

I say pay your Mom back and tell your fiance and let him bring it up with his sister.  She can either repay him/you for covering her loan. 

The topic ‘MOH owes my mom money.. what should I do?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors