Post # 1
Hi everyone! Still have a lot of time before the ‘I dos’ BUT I have been having a difficult time figuring out who I would have be my MoH. The obvious choice would be a friend of mine, let’s call her Michelle, whom I’ve known for over 10 years. She has sort of been my best friend but has not really been there for me for many of the difficult points I’ve had in life. She’s only aware of our friendship when she’s not dating or doesn’t have a boyfriend. For obvious reasons I don’t want to pick her. Everyone else has been in and out of my life and I do have good friends (No best friends) now that have been more active in the last 2-3 years. Should I go with the obvious despite not wanting it? Should I not pick Michelle and probably hurt a lot of feelings and cause a riff? Or just ditch MoH all together?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
I feel like this is one of those non issues thats not even worth a dash of concern. Ditch the Maid/Matron of Honor. Problem solved.
Post # 3
Yeah, Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t necessary. If there’s no one who you automatically know should be it, don’t have one.
Post # 4
That was my overall thought too. Just needed some feedback on this. 2/2 agree. Thank you!
Post # 5
I vote no Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 7
You don’t need a Maid/Matron of Honor. It’ll just create a headache that you don’t want. I would ditch the idea of having a Maid/Matron of Honor and just make everyone bridemaids. That’s what I’m doing and I only have 4 and 3 of them are my sisters.
Post # 8
Agree with all the PPs – Maid/Matron of Honor is not a requirement!
Post # 9
As mentioned above, you don’t need an MOH! So not picking anyone is certainly an option.
Some one I know started off with all bridesmaids and then promoted a girl to Maid/Matron of Honor because she got extra close with this girl in the process. That method worked out well for her. You could always do that later on if for some reason you regret not giving someone the title of Maid/Matron of Honor
Post # 10
Skip the Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 11
Agree with having no Maid/Matron of Honor. I think a lot of times the upset re the Maid/Matron of Honor title only comes when someone is chosen over someone else who feels like they should be it. If no one gets it, there’s (hopefully) really nothing for her to be upset about.
Post # 12
no Maid/Matron of Honor. and i wouldn’t even make Michelle a bridesmaid…tbh, it doesn’t sound like you’re actually friends.
Post # 13
Thank you everyone the input definitely helps me more confident in ditching Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 14
If you’re going to have them as your bridesmaid and you are currently super close to one of them, make her your Maid/Matron of Honor, it doesn’t matter if it’s only been 2-3 years. Who is the one that is most responsible and the best listener. Who do you enjoy talking about your wedding planning the most to?