(Closed) MOH problem :(

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I say dump her. It sucks that you choose to let your “frenemy” talk you into having her as MOH. Dump her and move on. You can’t repair this friendship or make it’s something it’s not.

Tell her you don’t want her as MOH and you don’t want to be friends. Or, you can tell her you don’t want her as MOH and let the rest happen naturally.

Post # 4
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

She definitely sounds like someone who is toxic for you… especially if you recognize yourself getting caught up in it and acting like her. I have this issue with FSIL.. she’s just toxic.. she’s an incredibly judgemental one-upper. I started to notice that because she was so judgemental of others, it really made me turn the mirror on herself and become very judgemental towards her… and that’s just not who I am… so I do my best to limit my interactions with her.

Post # 5
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

What was the hint you picked up on that made you think that she’s not making you MOH?

Yes, you definitely do not want to regret havng her as your MOH. Seeing as your wedding is still 9 months away, you still have time to save the relationship. I suggest you bring her out for lunch and just tell her how you feel. Tell her how you feel about her behaviour, exactly everything you said in your post. Basically just thrash it out and see where you get to. You’ll have your answer then. You will know in your heart whether you still want to be her friend or not. If not, you would have to un-ask her from her being you MOH.

I don’t understand why women put up with bad behaviour from their friends. Especially when it comes to their weddings! Like you wouldn’t put up with behaviour with your fiance. So its the same thing with friends. 


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