Post # 1
My wedding is in next August… and I am in a situation where my Maid/Matron of Honor may not be able to attend. How this happened was because my Maid/Matron of Honor got my wedding date wrong even though I have got this date 3 months ago. Her brother is also engaged and is planning on getting married in next August as well. They have been undecided on the date and venue. Finally, they have decided on a date (on a saturday) and it is the same day as our wedding. My Maid/Matron of Honor thought my wedding was the day after (on sunday) so she told them that it’s ok. When I told her my wedding is really on the saturday, she said she’ll talk to her brother about it since they haven’t booked anything yet, but I have. But if they can’t, then i gota find a replacement which is a whole new problem.
My current question is, if they end up changing the date, and my Maid/Matron of Honor can be part of the wedding, should I demote her? My fiance said that she is definitely NOT fulfilly her MOH duty when she can’t even get the date right. Can i consider this as a careless mistake or should I re-evaluate her and consider demoting her.
Post # 3
@Soon2beMrs.Ka: You/or maybe it’s your fiance, are being way to hard on her. I see it as a careless mistake.
Post # 4
Well she definitely can’t be your Maid/Matron of Honor and not be there on your wedding day, but demoting seems harsh. I guess you should wait to see if they change the date.
Post # 5
Seriously?? Seriously? You’d demote her for making a simple mistake?
Post # 6
I am not leaning towards demoting her… don’t worry… but i think i’ll talk to her… she hasn’t been quite keen and excited about being the role.. so.. i also want to see how she is feeling about it first… i mean.. if she feels this to be a big responsibility, I would still understand…
lets just hope she can make it to my wedding…
Post # 7
@Soon2beMrs.Ka: I see it as a mistake and say do what you feel is best.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t demote her if you want to keep the friendship…my best friend (who is my MOH) was a Maid/Matron of Honor in another of our friend’s wedding and was demoted b/c the other bride was very demanding and with her work schedule, my friend coulnd’t be with her every weekend like she expected – so she demoted her and it ruined their friendship…they havent talked since the wedding…that was 4 years ago.
Post # 9
It was a mistake! It happens, quite easily. especially when getting caught up in her brother’s wedding. Definitely not a reason to demote her!
Post # 10
neither of these are her events. she can’t help that 2 people close to her want to get married on the same weekend… demoting her would be pretty lame! glad you aren’t leaning that way…
Post # 11
Thanks for your advice, @noaliaqui:, @bostongirl27: @adnama: @cameronwedding: !! I needed your advice to prevent me from being a crazy bridezilla! I was talking to my other best friend/BM about this and no matter how the result turns out…. we are gonna just have a small talk to make sure there is no hard feelings…
Luckily, her brother is trying to see if the venue is free on another date, which i greatly appreciate!