- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Hi bees! Im having a dilemma with one of my maids.
When I got engaged I was talking with my dad about the bridal party. He kindly “suggested” (and by that I mean told me) it would “be nice” to have my step sister as Maid/Matron of Honor. We are the same age and get along just fine, I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding but only bc i was the only one in it other than bestman. *sidenote- i live 900 miles away from her but held up my Maid/Matron of Honor duties as best as I could…only thing I didnt do was help with centerpieces* So from that point on it was just kind of implied she was. The only thing is she hasnt been involved much in any planning and everything I have sent her regarding dresses she has had a problem with. My answer is ok just pick your own as long as its the same color and fabric as the other girls. A very close family friend and my stepmom are throwing me a shower. My Maid/Matron of Honor is doing the games but I think thats it. BUT I have another close friend who has been helping me with everything! Shes bought her dress already, got color swatches for me, has done a TON of internet searching and generally enthusiastic about the wedding.
So here’s my question: Do I ask her to be Maid/Matron of Honor as well? Is it too late? We are 6 months away from the wedding but I want to acknowledge how much she has helped me and been a part of wedding planning. Has anyone dealt with 2 MOH? How do you split the responsibilities without someones feelings getting hurt or feeling obligated to let them do a certain responsibility? Im mainly worried about my stepsister getting her feelings hurt…she generally emotional anyways. Help! I dont know what to do!!!