Post # 1
My former best friend of almost 6 years and Maid/Matron of Honor was bitten by my fiance’s dog when she came out for my Bridal Shower 6 weeks before my wedding. The dog and I both had our backs to her and she came out into the hallway and called out my name, which startled him, and he went after her. I promptly took her to the Emergency Room and her 2 bites required 2 stitches on one, and 1 stitch on the other. I did my very best to take care of all her needs for the remaining 4 days she was here. We offered to pay for all of her medical bills, and my fiance even asked her what he can give her to compensate her for pain and suffering. She declined and said she was not litigious and didn’t blame either of us (nor the dog) for the bite. I called and texted her in the days to follow to make sure she was doing okay, and there didn’t seem to be a problem.
However, on the second week of returning home, her treatment of me (via text) became cold and distant. My fiance reached out to her to make sure she was doing okay and when he got the notion that she didn’t want to be in the wedding anymore, urged her to call me to advise me and not wait until the last minute to do so. She pulled out of my wedding 4 weeks before the actual date and indicated to me that she was also not going to attend the wedding citing that “she would not be ready.” I understood her position and told her it was okay and reminded her to send us all of her medical bills relating to the dog bite… even recommending that she seek therapy to deal with the trauma she endured. We did not for one moment downplay her injuries and I did not want my friendship with her to suffer. We felt very badly for what happened and wanted to make sure she understood we were there for her and were prepared to compensate her for pain and suffering. When we ended the call, we were still friends and there was no animosity whatsoever — or so I thought. I did not ask her for the Maid/Matron of Honor dress at that time (I paid for it), because I felt it would be in poor taste on my part considering what had transpired. But, I did expect her to return the dress eventually — it still had its tags and I know she hadn’t altered the dress at all.
Two weeks after my wedding took place, we came home to find a letter from her lawyer suing my new husband for “personal injury.” It wasn’t the lawsuit that upset me, but the manner in which she went about it. I felt that she could’ve/should’ve called, text or emailed me (or him) to let us know that she would feel more comfortable bringing in legal counsel. We were already prepared to compensate her. Again, we are not downplaying her injuries, but the bites were not severe enough to justify bringing a lawyer into the picture. She got greedy and well, that story is a hurtful story in itself.
My question is, shouldn’t she have returned the Maid/Matron of Honor dress by now? I bought the dress for her not as a gift, but to wear as my Maid/Matron of Honor. She did not fulfill that role and I feel the dress is rightfully mine. Before you ask, the dress can be worn for a Christmas party of NYE party. The dress would fit my daughter and I would love to be able to give it to her. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
Post # 3
@missy92264: Did you ever talk to her about giving the dress back?
Post # 4
wow- you never really know people, right?
i can see why you would want the dress back, but i wouldn’t hold my breath. have you asked her for it yet? maybe when you get a lawyer that could be something included in some sort of settlement? $200 less to cover the cost of the dress? i have no idea. but, WOW. i’m so sorry 🙁
Post # 5
In my opinion, she’s acting bullcrappy. I would never sue a friend if her dog bit me (actually one of them has) especially if the friend offered to pay for the medical bills and everything! As for the dress, it probably wouldnt cross my mind to return the dress if it was me, so maybe she’s also ditzy and needs to be reminded of it.
Also, one of my dogs names is Judas, so the title of the thread amused me.
Post # 6
This sounds awful! 🙁 I agree with PP that you can try to address the MoH dress during the legal settlement because I don’t think you’d be able to have a civil conversation about it now that she’s suing you.
Post # 7
What a b*tch… That’s all I have to say about it. Good luck, OP. I’d hate to be in your position.
Post # 8
@jpalm13: Took the words out of my mouth. What a freakin B… I could never do that to my friend.
Post # 9
@missy92264: Look, I’m sorry. I’m sure you and your dog are good people. I’m sure that you have the best intentions and you mean well and I can see why you’d feel hurt.
I know how many animal lovers are here, so I’m prepaired to get blasted. Here goes
If a dog bit me severve enough that I needed sticches, I’d report it. That’s my right to. What if that was a child?
Unless it was family, I’d most likley do the same thing. It’s nothing personal-she wants to make sure she’s treated fairly. I’m not saying you were going to try and trick her out of anything. But she has a right to make sure she’s protected.
As for the dress, maybe you should ask some lawyer bees-but I think you need to go through her lawyer to ask her for stuff. I’m not too sure
Post # 10
Ask for the dress back. The friendship is ruined anyway at this point.
Seriously, what a B. If the dog bite was serious, I would understand possibly, but to ruin a friendship over 3 stitches? Not ok.
Just send her an email – don’t say anything about the letter you received, but write something along the lines of, “Hey, hope all is well on your end. I’m writing you because the dress I purchased was for you to stand by my side as my Maid/Matron of Honor on my wedding day. Unfortunately, that didn’t happen and so I’d like the dress back so I can give it to my daughter instead. You can mail it to me (my address, should you not remember it is 123 Lovely Lane, etc.). Please let me know when you’ve dropped it in the mail. I’m hoping to get it this week. Thanks, Missy.”
This is not legal advice.
Post # 11
Edited: I can’t provide you with any legal advice so I won’t address that. Howeve, I agree with other posters that biting is not acceptable dog behavior, no matter how minor the injury. What are you and Fiance doing about his dog to make sure this never happens again?
I also agree that your former Maid/Matron of Honor is being a B by suing you. You’ve already agreed to pay off all of her medical bills and then some. If she wanted more money, she could have discussed this with you and your Fiance. Instead, she’s made the process more expensive and contentious than it needed to be.
Post # 12
@MissFireFlower: If the dog was reported, it would most likely be put to sleep. You would seriously ruin a friendship and kill a life because of 3 stitches? I’ve gotten more stitches than that from falling on a stepping stone. Should I sue whoever made the stepping stone?
Post # 13
And btw, I’m not trying to say that by it only causing 3 stitches its okay to happen, its definitely not. But I think suing and reporting the dog is over kill. Literally.
Post # 14
@MissFireFlower: I just don’t see why she had to be such a bitch about it. She could have said something to them about the fact that she would have report or she’d feel more comfortable talking to a lawyer. I also don’t understand why she’d go through a lawyer if she hadn’t even tried to get her friends to pay her medical bills. When she goes to court, she won’t get anything more than her medical expenses anyway.
Post # 15
W..T..F! She is suing you over 2 stiches? People are so fucked in the head these days. Apparently she didn’t value your friendship so tell her you want the dress back and move on, she’s not even worth your time. Sorry.
Post # 16
to the person above that said “if a dog bit me bad enough that i needed 3 stitches” as an ER nurse, i’d say that 2 bites requiring 3 stitches total indicates that they prob weren’t that bad, unless they stitch differently in adults verses pediatrics.
regardless,i think it’s crappy what she’s doing, especially if you alreadfy paid her bills. def ask for the dress back, but idk if she’ll be reasonable about it