MOH pulled out… not sure what to do…

posted 2 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
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Busy bee

How about having your mother standing with you, then it wouldn’t look lopsided?

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I would have my brother, if I were you.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

Why would people judge you or make comments about you having your brother stand with you?  Your wedding party is supposed to be those that love and support you.  I see nothing wrong with having him (or your mother) beside you on your day.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

My Maid/Matron of Honor backed out of my wedding 1.5 months before my wedding, I ended up asking another bridesmaid to sign for us. Not necessarily be the Maid/Matron of Honor, but sign for us. That’s all you really need, you can ask your mom or brother or anyone who will be there who you love to sign for you. They don’t even have to stand up with you, I’ve been to weddings where just the bride and groom were standing up then the witnesses would join when it was time to sign the papers and then they would sit down again. 

I would still encourage your FH to have his friend, do if you wanted your brother I would think that would be really nice. They just need to witness your union, not gender specific. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I went to a wedding where the bride just had her brother, and people thought it was sweet. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

hermionegranger :  if someone’s going to say things about your brother standing next to you, it’s really on them. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would ask my brother if I were you.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I had both my brothers stand with me. It wasn’t weird and no one (that I heard) made any negative comments. If you want to ask your brother, go for it!

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Your brother 100%

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think having your brother would be really sweet and lovely! What would people judge you for?? They will think ‘how lovely that she’s so cloes to her brother and he’s there to support her!’ 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

hermionegranger :  my friend who picked her brother had plenty of gal pals, but picked just her brother. I get that weddings can make people with less friends feel self conscious because it can be sort of an accounting of friends, but people don’t really think about other peoples bridal parties much 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

hermionegranger :  Don’t let someone else’s closed mindedness/sexism be the reason you don’t have your brother stand with you. You are close with your brother, have a relationship where you want to honour him as your person, this is a great thing so don’t let other people’s opinion take that away from you on your wedding day. Your brother should mean more to you than people with closed minded views.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

These days you see all kinds of bridal party combos. People will either not give your choice a second thought or they will assume you are keeping it simple and sticking to family. Lots of people choose to just have siblings even if they have loads of friends (or sometimes because they have loads of friends – they don’t want to choose). People like to see siblings that care about each other so they will just think about how nice it is. 

Remember you may have lots of insecurities about your friends but other people don’t know that. They aren’t automatically looking at it through that lens the way you are. 

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