(Closed) MOH Question

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Although you intend to only have one, I would suggest having two.

I think it would destroy the friendship with your (not that close) friend.  Also I think it would mean a lot for your current best friend to be in your wedding. You can have them both on the same level.  Maybe your fiance also has someone else he would like to ask.  If not, no reason not to have 2 people stand up for you.

Post # 4
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmm this is a tough one. Obviously you want to person you’re really closest to to be your Maid/Matron of Honor but it’s also a little hurtful to ask someone to step down from the bridal party completely. Would it be possible for you to have both a Maid/Matron of Honor and a BM? That way you can explain to the original Maid/Matron of Honor that you and your BFF have reunited and I’m sure she would understand. But if you asked her to step down completely, it might not go over very well.

Post # 5
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy

I also suggest having two.  Asking someone to step down, especially just a few months out, could be very hurtful.  But I would still ask your old friend, it sounds like you’d like having her included and she may love to be a part of it.

Post # 6
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I would have two, it would hurt my feelings if someone had asked me to be their Maid/Matron of Honor then asked me to step down because they like someone else better.

I would try to have your Fiance scrounge up someone.

Post # 7
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was asked to step down as bridesmaid in a former friend’s wedding for basically the same reason you’re describing.  Notice how I said  former friend?  We never spoke to each other again after that day.  It really hurt my feelings and it made her feel too awkward to address my feelings.  And then she got married and moved away and we never reconciled. 

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