Post # 1
Hi, going anonymous here!
I would love if you could advise me here. I’m getting married in the summer and my Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend who lives an hour plane ride away. I havent seen her for months and am going to visit for 2 nights in a couple of weeks. She lives with her boyfriend and they are pretty serious. I want to spend at least one of the nights there just hanging out with her on our own catching up and just having a general girly night out. I feel like she is going to want her bf to come out with us, I don’t mind that on one of the nights but I feel like I should be able to have her to myself for one night since we have so much to catch up on etc. I mean they live together so they see each other all the time. Am I being childish here or do you think I am right for feeling like this?
Thank you so much.
Post # 3
@ihaveaquestion: Have you asked her for a girls night while youre there? If she’s your best friend, just ask her! Don’t assume the worst.
And for what it’s worth, my Fiance would probably stick around for a bit to be friendly and then leave so we could have our “girly” time as he calls it.
Post # 3
i don’t know how you can dictate this, especially as she is hosting you. i would just say, “id love some girl time- wanna spend one evening getting margaritas just you and me so we can dish about the boys?” or something like that
Post # 4
I think it’s reasonable, but I would be careful about “excluding” her Boyfriend or Best Friend, especially since she’s hosting you. I would probably just suggest a few hours at a fun location for “girls’ time” and see what she says.
Post # 5
I think it’s good to have some girl time. Just lightly ask if she can think of some fun stuff for you two to do together. If she is your best friend she should understand!
Post # 6
Thanks ladies! She said to me what do you want to do when you come visit and I told her I would love a night getting cocktails and having girly chats with her and catching up and she kinda just said we can get cocktails. So I’m not sure what to do…..I guess I could ask her but I just feel a bit rude.
Post # 7
She can’t read your mind. Ask if it’s a possibility. He may already have planned something for himself so he’s not in the way.
Post # 8
If you make a big effort with her boyfriend and ask about them etc, I think it’s ok to let her know that you have missed her and that you *hope* you get a bit if time on your own too to just be best friends and Girly! I it were me I’d ensure to mention him positively, eg, can’t wait to try Richards infamous home made curry! Will be so much fun seeing you in your best all loved up etc, but balance that with a wee, I’ve missed you and am looking forward to an hour or two just us if we can work it out 😉 I would appreciate that approach if I were on the receiving end, and think my fi would be understanding too 🙂 good luck honey! Xox
Post # 9
when my Fiance hears the words “mani/pedi” out of my mouth, he is nowhere to be found 😉 lol i would just ask her!