(Closed) MOH questions

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I believe the Matron of Honor is for the girl that IS married. That’s the way I always thought. The Maid/Matron of Honor is usually the one that stands beside the bride. (like the best man and groom) And if you want people to know who’s who without telling them, you could add a little something to her dress to make it "known" (sash, shaw, a different shade of dress)


Hope that helps.

Post # 4
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Are you having programs?  That’s another way to say who’s who.  Also,  my opinion is that the bride’s sister is important by virtue of her being the sister.  *Everyone* will figure that out at your wedding and go congratulate her separately…so I wouldn’t worry about whether people know her title.  to this day my sister (married 10 years) regrets not making me her co-MOH…but seriously, I don’t care.  Everyone knew I was "special" and treated me accordingly.

As for parties I think there are a lot of options.  My mom’s friends are throwing me a shower.  My sister (matron of honor) and godmother hosted a "bridal tea" jointly.  My B’ette party was nominally planned by my BF"F" (sorry, can you tell I’m having issues with her?), but really my other Bridesmaid or Best Man did more of the work.  I think it’s not a big deal for pretty much anyone who’s close to you to host these things.  I have learned, on these boards, that it’s inappropriate for mothers to host showers, but I think that rule often gets broken.  Or the mother pays, but it’s "hosted" by someone else.

I do think, though, that it’s nice to have some kind of get together in celebration of your wedding.  It has to be neither big or expensive.  You could just ask everyone if they want to go out for pizza…everyone could split it even.  It’s just nice to have the people you care about get together in celebration.  Except for flights, my b’ette party cost my BM’s the split cost of my dinner and a couple of drinks.  We stayed at a friend’s house and everything else we did was free. I would happily have paid my share of dinner also…

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