Post # 1
Okay I do post on here a good bit, but have changed my name because people know I post on here. So to fill you in quickly…
There have been numerous things the Maid/Matron of Honor has done that have really just been ridiculous, adding negative energy and just bad vibes.
The other night she decides to tell me in front of a good bit of people who are not even involved in the wedding that she thinks a Bridesmaid or Best Man is a bit**, control freak, and did i mention that she said bit** like 20 times after I said I really don’t want to deal with this kind of stuff–BM is an organized person and asking what was going on for showers-party etc. Maid/Matron of Honor says I know u don’t need to deal with this but she was a bit**. She thinks she is a control freak because she helped pick out my dress, as did everyone else.
Two days later i get in touch with her and ask if we can go to dinner and finish our convo from the other night, she replies “what convo?” COME ON!
So we make plans—she then figured out what convo we were talking about. We make plans but she invites her cousin to come along who is 13. I am not talking about something that has really upset me with her 13 year old cousin there, I was super nice the night with the first “convo” I have been so nice thru out everything she has said/done.
I have tried to deal with this being nice, I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
Oh man. Have you seen “Bridesmaids”?
It sounds like she’s insecure about the other bridesmaid taking over her role. Has she been taking the lead in things like planning the bachelorette party and bridal shower?
Try to get her another time to talk to her about it. Make sure it’s just the 2 of you, without the 13 year old cousin there as a buffer! Assure her that the other bridesmaid is just a very organized person and not trying to usurp her.
Post # 4
I havent see it but i really want to!!!
She has not spoke about any sort of wedding plans to any other BMs so other Bridesmaid or Best Man asked what was up. In fact everytime I have tried to share my happiness with her it is disregarded. Like it’s never been said and subject is changed.
I will try to talk to her again. Who knows!!! I know the *rants* can be annoying, I just don’t know what to do at all!
Post # 5
My original Maid/Matron of Honor was the same way. Anytime a Bridesmaid or Best Man tried to ask her something or see if she was going to plan anything, they got completely ignored. Then, she got mad at me because my BM’s were stressing me out because she wasn’t responding to them. And just like yours, she only cared about her stuff, didn’t give a hoot about anything that even remotely had to do with me, my life, or the wedding.
It sounds like she is trying to avoid the situation, so she knows that she offended you but doesn’t want to talk about it or apologize. Don’t let her avoid it. Let her know how you feel. Good luck.