Post # 1
My rehearsal is next Thursday evening – planned for 5pm. I just emailed my Maid/Matron of Honor and she informed me she wouldn’t be able to make it because she is babysitting from 9-5 that day and the place she is babysitting is 45 minutes away (without traffic) from the rehearsal site.
I’m trying not to get stressed out about this. I’m just a little irritated that since there is always a rehearsal (at weddings I’ve been to) I’d think that you know, you might actually check and see when the rehearsal was before making other committments.
So she says she’s not sure what time she would be able to make it because of traffic. Now we can have our rehearsal any time from 4-7. I wanted to have it at 5 because no one going is working and my attitude was earlier the better. My mom thinks there won’t be any traffic at that time because my rehearsal is the day after the 4th of July and everyone will be on vacation. Do you think I would be safe moving the rehearsal to 6 and that she would be able to make it there on time? She would have to take major highways to get there.
I know it’s not critical for everyone to attend the rehearsal but I don’t have any other bridesmaids and it would be a real let down (we’re already having a groomsman and groomswoman who can’t make it) and I would rather not have to explain everything later.
Post # 3
I would bump it back to 6. It’s obnoxious that she took a babysitting job when she should have known there would be a rehearsal dinner, but I don’t think 6 is too late.
Post # 4
Is she just finding out now that the rehearsal is at 5, or was it scheduled well in advance?
I would slide it back if that’s an option and if you didn’t have it set for 5 months ago and communicated to all concerned parties. You can’t control traffic, tough to predict exactly what will happen on that day (for all you know, the parents she’s sitting for could come home late …) but that at least gives her a fighting chance of getting there.
Post # 5
i think if you can easily push it back an hour then why not? that way she is there and you will not have to worry about anyone not being prepared.
a thought about traffic: i see you also live in boston, and as a person who frequently drives around this city and its surround areas, i would absolutely count on traffic that night. it always shocks me how much traffic there can be on times where i think everyone is on vacation/not traveling. especially since the holiday is mid-week, lot of my coworkers are using THIS weekend for the holiday and will work thursday and friday as normal. 6:15 might even be better!
Post # 6
I agree with @bostongirl27. Traffic is always horrendous. Add in tourists for the holiday weekend, and the fact that many people have off of work, I would most definitely push it back to at least 6. I’d probably do 6:30 to be on the safe side. I know personally I will be using next weekend at the 4th of July holiday because I get Wed. off of work, so I took Thursday and Friday off to go away for the weekend. I would assume plenty others are doing the same, and that would add a lot of traffic if those people are travelling to Boston.
Post # 7
Bump it back a bit if you can and hopefully she can make it even with traffic. If not, you’ll have to just go ahead without her – it definitely isn’t critical that she be there.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I feel a bit better now. I had the initial knee-jerk really ticked off reaction when I found out.
I’m not blaming her because we didn’t have times firmed up now I just would rather she would have thought to check when it was going to be because obviously the rehearsal would be around then even if she didn’t know exactly when it was.